Children who are cared for and cared for by their parents will grow up to be people who care about others. There’s 30 years of research, showing that kids who do well are more likely to succeed than kids who don’t.
Encouraging children to learn to achieve good results is always something parents should do, but teaching children to be good people is just as important.
Kindness and caring are two factors that are highly valued in every society. However, if you ask a child what his parents want, 81% say it is an achievement.
In fact, children who care about others are more likely to achieve success in life.
A preschooler was once loved by many for his kindness, after 30 years was the one who made the most money. High school students who help, collaborate, and share with friends outperform grades and quality tests.
Especially children who always believe in the goodness and goodness of their parents, always respect parents, often have good academic records, get into good schools and have more successful careers.
If you want to promote kindness or kindness, give your child plenty of opportunities to focus on it, starting with changing the everyday questions we ask our children.
1. What’s your favorite thing today?
This question helps your child remember the emotions he experienced when he thought about his favorite thing of the day.
This will make your child feel happy and have a chance to remember the happy times of the day.
2. Did you do a good job today?
Maybe your child won’t get the answer right away, or maybe the answer will be very short. But if we keep asking our children every day, over time their sharing will be more detailed and specific. As if: “I opened the lid of the lunch box for friend A”, or: “I let friend B eat snacks because he forgot to bring today”, or is: “Friend C did the wrong exercise, I explained it to him.”
Not only stopping at questions, we must also share experiences when helping others with our children, and at the same time express our views in situations where we cannot help others.
For example, talk to your child about how you regret not being able to stand up for a close friend who was bullied when you were at school. Or when you play a team game and you give up and cause your team to fall apart to teach your kids about team responsibilities.
The purpose of these things is not to turn children into good people or to reward them for their good deeds, but to emphasize to them the true values of this life.
3. Who is the nicest person you know, and why?
Encouraging your child to think good before bed will form the habit of seeking the good in everyone.
This will help them realize their potential to be good people.
4. Do you need your help with something?
Most of us find it difficult to speak up for help from others. A child who does not get help with small things will not ask for help in difficult situations.
Take the first small step. Don’t be afraid to ask your child. In fact, asking your children daily if they need your help creates opportunities for you to be there for them when they need you most. However, this does not mean that you do everything for your child.
5. What is the worst thing about your child today?
Pinpointing the moments that make your child feel bad during the day is something every parent needs to do.
These questions will help create a more trusting parent-child relationship, allowing them to express their feelings, even things they don’t want to say.
Parents can talk about negative things, such as bad choices, irresponsibility, disrespect, because it is part of the reality of life that inevitably happens to their children.
Leading your child through those bad times will help parents teach them how to better handle similar situations in the future.
6. What about your friends?
This question can tell you about the state of your child’s relationship in class whether he or she is adapting and integrating well. This will probably be an open question that parents can ask and help their children to share more later.
Friends are also a very influential factor in the psychological formation and behavior of children. Parents should listen to the little stories of children at school. Better a child happily telling his parents about his friends than a child wanting to hide and not wanting to share.
Try not to interrupt stories your child is telling you and only comment when they ask for it. Don’t forget about physical contact like hugging or holding your baby’s hand. If you’re in a bad mood or you just don’t like hearing your child talk right now, let them know and arrange another time when you can fully listen and talk to them.
Experiments have shown that children who are given the opportunity to be kind instead of being forced to be kind tend to be very charitable later in life. And children who receive praise and recognition for doing well are also more likely to continue to help others later in life.