Assoc. Prof. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam: “Don’t be shocked, black movies are a place to teach children about reproduction and sex more than parents”

The online community is currently agitated by the fact that the wife of a famous artist on social networks “exposes” her teenage son to secretly view sensitive images of 18+ and “There are many elements that invite their children into bad groups“. Before her son’s incident, this mother smashed her son’s phone and warned parents to “Check your Facebook, there will be surprises“.

The mother’s controversial post “exposes” her son on social networks.

At a young age filled with curiosity about sex and sexuality, it is entirely possible for children to sneakily view sensitive images and videos. So in a situation where a child is found watching a “black movie”, what should parents do best?

Talking to Infonet reporters, Assoc. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam – Dean of the Faculty of Educational Sciences (University of Education, Vietnam National University, Hanoi) said that in those situations, it is best for parents to “quietly withdraw”.

“Withdrawing doesn’t mean not talking, but not reacting to let your child know nor embarrass them on social media. Parents should also know that if they embarrass their children, they will be hurt by problems that are very human, very natural.

Because at puberty, children will definitely care about friends of the opposite sex, about gender issues, love, sex… That’s a very normal thing” – Assoc. Prof. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam analyzed.

The expert hypothesized: “If I put myself in that situation, I wouldn’t tell my child about it right away, but then I would prepare a lot of books on gender knowledge to keep in the house… Will look to see.

Thus, parents can provide their children with accurate knowledge about gender without being erotic or provocative.

Then, choose a time, some time away from the day that the “heavenly” happened, we will sit and talk with the child as if the conversation has nothing to do with the event that happened before. Parents just need to gently talk to their children about this issue, about the roles, positions and responsibilities of adults.

At this point, parents can talk about the dangers of watching “dark movies” on the internet. These are clips that do not reflect human emotions, do not reflect love, but only descriptions of actions, sometimes showing false views about love, women as well as violence. love, sex”.

According to Assoc. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam, parents should take advantage of this sign of their children to find ways to educate their children about sex. Because it is a fact that many parents never give sex education to their children.

“I say don’t be shocked, most ‘black movies’ are places to teach children about reproductive health and sex more, not parents,” Assoc. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam frankly said.

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Talking about the behavior of the above mother, Assoc. Dr. Nguyen Thanh Nam explained, “Actually, this just shows that the mother is overly worried and reacts somewhat inconsiderately.” In fact, the risk online is real. being manipulated, lured into unhealthy entertainments, affecting personality is real.

“The fact that the mother found out and said on the internet came from that worry, she didn’t want her child to “grow up” too soon. I should sympathize with that mother,” the expert emphasized.

However, through this story, Prof. Dr. Thanh Nam said that parents need to be careful when dealing with children who are in puberty.

“Children at this age are very sensitive to respect. If the situation is posted online, I’m sure you will know it too. All things related to respect and shame will affect a child’s self-esteem and self-confidence greatly. Not to mention, children in this stage are extremely sensitive to respect or disrespect.

There have been children who committed suicide just because a photo of a kiss with their boyfriend was stolen and posted online. Even a child who only needs to be scolded by his mother for being unfairly blamed will commit suicide. Therefore, with children with personalities like this, parents have to be even more sensitive”, Assoc. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam messaged.

Assoc. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam also said that the prohibition of parents like that does not mean that next time children will avoid watching “black movies”. Instead, they are still sneaky, peeking in a more discreet, sophisticated way that their parents can’t detect. Thus inadvertently parents are more difficult to control, bending the child to the right trajectory.

Famous artist’s wife ‘exposes’ her son to see 18+ photos on Facebook, causing a stir among parents

The story of Mrs. HN – the wife of a famous artist shared recently has become the focus of controversy on online forums about what parents should do when they know their children are viewing sensitive images.

N. Huyen