“If you don’t educate, you have no right to punish and don’t expect a child to be an angel.”

Two years ago, while I was still receiving messages from friends who had problems with sex education, I received a request for help from a 20-year-old girl.

The story is he has a brother in 9th grade. And he accidentally saw the brother texting with his girlfriend but with content related to sex. The girl is quite angry and frustrated, planning to tell her parents to use force to stop. But after thinking for a moment, he texted me.

At that time, I asked: “What do you want? Punish the child or save him?”. And he said, of course, “I want to save my brother.”

I spent half an hour explaining to him that many children, because of the early intervention of the environment and social networks, are curious about sex from an early age. And according to human instinct, when boys start producing sperm, girls start menstruating, the body has started sending signals about desire. Coupled with the fact that he was not taught in terms of sex education, it is very difficult to control his behavior unless he is arrested.

And I also say two important points:

1. This is a golden opportunity to talk to your son about sex education. Many parents really want to have this moment to be able to talk to their children well like two adults, but never found the opportunity or evidence to do so. So you could say it’s a rare moment to be immortalized for education.

2. This is also a golden opportunity for you to create a sense of belonging, trust, and break down barriers between children and adults.. Only when he makes mistakes, and he is helped, forgiven with understanding, treated like a grown man, does he know how to love what he gives him. Punishment is fine, but it will often trigger guilt and create space for devious behavior later on. instead, speaking and teaching properly, will bring better results.

After 1 month, he told me again that he has a wonderful brother. And the two sisters told almost everything, including weird stories about gender. Sometimes she doesn’t know, asks herself, answers back to her brother, and their relationship is almost like a perfect family relationship.

There he is. If you don’t educate, you have no right to punish a child, and you have no right to expect him to be an angel.

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