The FIRST verse doesn’t help me make progress
Life has a lot of stress around it that sometimes parents utter words that hurt their children a lot. These seemingly harmless words were inadvertently engraved in the minds and minds of children. Even more dangerous, this can be the cause of children falling into autism.
Youth is like a blank sheet of paper, but that doesn’t mean the child “knows nothing”, it doesn’t mean that parents can say anything. Here are 3 sayings, however frustrating, parents should never say to their children.
1. Why are you as useless as your father?
This is a saying that many angry mothers often say. If you are not satisfied with the father of the child, husband and wife should “close the door and tell each other”, frankly speaking, why do they all fall on the child’s head? Children are not to blame, do not deserve to be scolded. So, mother, be careful what you say.
Mother should not “get angry at the fish and cut the cutting board”, dragging the child’s father to compare and then criticize. (illustration image)
If the mother often says this to her child, the child will feel depressed and self-deprecating. Even shows an attitude of hating his mother and has a tendency to want to oppose. Therefore, instead of dragging the child’s father, the mother should calm down and point out the child’s mistakes.
In fact, in many cases, the mother utters the sentence: “Why are you as useless as your father?” in front of her husband and children. This is unsophisticated behavior that does not save the face of the child father and wants his husband to be humiliated. These hurtful words can lead to quarrels between husband and wife, which leads to the risk of “breaking up” the family.
2. If you don’t try, you will suffer the consequences
This statement is not a word of encouragement or encouragement, but a threat. Boys are often more rebellious than girls. Therefore, the words of parents with this sentence not only bring good results but also backfire.
Guide your child to develop, instead of bullying him. (illustration image)
Instead of criticizing and threatening children, parents should walk with their children through adversity. Always provide step-by-step guidance to help your child solve problems. No one is born to be able to do everything immediately, everything requires a process of effort.
3. It’s useless for a boy to cry
In the opinion of many, a child should be strong, not sentimental, weak and cry. This is the wrong way of educating. Crying is a normal expression of emotion. When children are sad, crying is one way to help children vent their sadness.
Boys also have moments of weakness and tears. (illustration image)
Parents constantly scold sentences like: “It is useless for a boy to cry”, “Who will cry for a boy”,… will create an invisible pressure on the child. When the pressure increases, it will have a bad effect, which affects the development of the child. While the child is depressed and suffering, parents must comfort and comfort the child. Without this much-needed comfort, children will feel inferior, ashamed and afraid.
If parents want to raise a boy with an optimistic personality, love life but forbid him to cry, it means that they are inadvertently damaging the personality and emotions of the child.
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