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The mother lacks calm, making everyone see her children as “criminals”!

Recently, there was a furore about the case of NS Xuan Bac’s wife breaking a phone, causing outrage online when she discovered that her son’s Facebook actions were quite sensitive.

According to the male artist’s wife, his son was coaxed into a group message containing 18+ pictures, so he was very worried, afraid that he would be affected. Many viewers think that this is a sensitive story, he should not share it like that, which can easily affect the psychology of children during puberty.

Prior to these conflicting opinions, we contacted Dr. Vu Thu Huong (lecturer of the Department of Basic Education, Hanoi National University of Education) to analyze more closely the psychology of the mother in the story above.

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Doctor of Psychology Vu Thu Huong

According to Dr. Thu Huong, the fact that Xuan Bac’s wife acted so harshly on her child proves that she lacks knowledge of psychological education as well as teaching sex to her children.

Dr Huong said: First, I judge that NS Xuan Bac’s wife lacks knowledge about the psychology of child education, especially in adolescents. The mother’s act of losing her temper is understandable, but it has enormous consequences. Because teens don’t think like moms! Please look at this action from the perspective of a teenager, not a criminal.

Usually, children tend to dramatize their lives. The important point is that children are often sympathetic to outsiders, but always demand more from their parents. So that the unintentional actions of parents will leave a bad influence on the child.

When children grow up, parents must pay attention to their actions. Parents even have to ‘bend the tongue’ with their boss and biological parents. If you want to vent your anger, ‘vent’ it into someone else’s head, like your baby’s dad. But when venting, you also need to be careful, don’t let your child find out. That’s the difficulty parents have when they have teenagers.”.

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Dr Huong said such actions published on Facebook could leave a long-term psychological impact on his son. That invisible act made the boy’s work no different from that of a “criminal,” not because he required normal physiological and psychological understanding.

She says: “I don’t think he will ‘lose face’ because time is really going to pass. But a child’s pain will never end. Right now or a few months from now, maybe he that person will feel embarrassed and then suddenly do some ‘ crazy things get out of control.

The suicide rate of students in their teens is very high, so parents are forced to pay attention to their behavior. I don’t overburden reputation-damaging things because they’re so small, then the kids will sort it out. But whether the child himself was really deeply traumatized is the issue.”

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In addition, Dr. Huong also commented that Xuan Bac’s wife rarely provided sex education to her children, leading to scenes of impatience on social networks. Since high school kids started watching sex, 18+ movies… completely normal. It can’t be 100% banned, so the only way is for parents to educate their children about sex as early as possible.

“I feel this mother is doing very little sex education for her children. He was not mentally prepared and did not teach his children. Because once educated, children will know and be careful about accepting sex. Mother did not lose her temper when she saw the child watching it. The mother’s harsh actions only lead to the conclusion that what the child did was very bad.

I once found out that my high school girl had a boyfriend. My attitude at that time was also acceptable, not prohibited, but clearly explained: You two should not have sex, overstepping each other’s boundaries. I never said that my children were unlovable, on the contrary, I said frankly that the law prohibits children from having sex before their age. If the children go beyond the limits, the law will deal with them, but I can’t save them.”

dr. Thu Huong said that parents who make sensitive things of their children rude on social networks will create a very bad premise: Children will find ways to avoid and not communicate with their parents. Only then did things get really complicated.

“Usually parents are the last to know about their children because children want to hide. If parents themselves are too strict, I’m sure next time, the child will hide more sensitive things.” .

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For stories when parents find that their kids watch sensitive stuff, Dr. Thu Huong advises parents 3 things as follows:

1. Parents should keep their children “busy”

This busyness is very important. With a “busy” child, he will have very little free time, nor will he go out to explore things. This principle also applies to adults.

Apart from school time, parents need to create more “work” for their children, namely cleaning the house, exercising…

“If put in the case of Xuan Bac’s wife, I will increase the work for the children, until the children have to temporarily forget those 18+ photos. Will not destroy the phone or roar about it. Watching hot movies. Because if parents react hard, kids who don’t watch it now will watch it another time, trying to find a way to keep their parents from finding out.”

2. Parents should not “blind” their children all problems

Many adults often have the concept of “drawing a path for the deer to run” and this is a very wrong idea. Parents should open up everything with their children, for example if they want to know about hot movies, hold honest family gatherings about the matter… Be open in sex education, so that your child understands that it is normal to know about it. 18+ things when you are under 18 years old.

3. Make family rules and follow them strictly

There must be separate rules in the family. For example, online learning is not allowed to open the trash. “If I put myself as Xuan Bac’s wife, I will punish her for watching trash in class, not because she watched 18+. After that, I will talk to her about hot movies and the consequences of watching them.”– Dr. Vu Thu Huong recounted.

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