Children with “psychological disabilities” because they accidentally witnessed their parents’ sex scenes
Recently, the social network was bombarded with the story of the artist Xuan Bac’s wife sharing her son’s education on her personal Facebook.
Accordingly, the male artist’s wife broke the phone and used extremely harsh words after discovering that her son was lured into a group of messages containing 18+ pictures.
Many viewers think that this is a sensitive story, she should not share it publicly, easily affecting the psychology of children during puberty. And most of all, learning about sex and sexuality is a natural thing, according to human development that everyone has to go through.
There is no denying that there are many malicious software and groups on the Internet today, specializing in the distribution of sensitive content such as sex; suicide challenge;…When children are young, they will be attracted to these contents without even having the knowledge to prevent and protect themselves. Since then, thoughts gradually become distorted, actions are out of control.
However, there have been many cases of children being severely affected psychologically, the cause of which originates from the parents themselves. Maybe it’s reluctant, maybe the parents are too carefree, they have too intimate actions, even “love” when the child is lying next to them. Invisible, these children grow up in curiosity or phobia throughout adulthood.
Strange noise…
I’m P., belonging to the last generation 8X. In my childhood memory, there is not only a pure memory of an innocent childhood like many other friends. And in my memory, there are nights when I’m sleeping when I’m woken up by sounds (which I often call horrible sounds when I was a baby). My parents are in business. Every night, I usually sleep upstairs with my younger brother, and my parents sleep downstairs.
Children not only discover sex on their own, but can also be influenced by their parents
But saying that upstairs and downstairs people think is far away. It’s actually very close together. Every sound or small action can be heard upstairs.
When I was a child, I was afraid of ghosts, so I often slept very late. That’s why, I accidentally heard the sounds when my parents “love”. I have to endure those sounds every night. And there are nights when I can’t stand it, I’m so uncomfortable, I cover my head with pillows so I don’t have to hear those sounds and cry.
Sometimes I think I’m miserable too. I don’t even know who to talk to. Don’t know who to talk to. And it really haunted me until adulthood.
I know that it’s an inevitable human desire and no parent wants their child to see it. It was only due to the difficult circumstances of the years when our country was still poor. Now I have more sympathy for my parents but perhaps, those sounds will be difficult to escape from my mind.
Afraid of the scene where the father “loves” his mother through the dim lights
Ms. Ha is a beautiful, successful woman, currently the head of Marketing department of a media company. Outwardly vivacious and agile, inside she was a dark sky.
Ha’s parents are both teachers, living a very gentle and emotional life. However, the grandparents could not understand why their beloved, obedient daughter was always grumpy and unfriendly to her parents. Only later did Ha’s best friend find out the secret – a secret that can startle parents. She felt disgusted with her parents because she had to witness her parents having sex with each other since they were little.
When Ha was young, her family lived in the countryside. The architecture of a house in the countryside is usually an altar built in the middle of the house, next to a set of mahogany structures. There are two beds on either side. Ha is the oldest sister in the family, two sisters sleep in one bed, and parents sleep in one bed.
One night, accidentally waking up, Ha witnessed the scene of her parents wrapped around each other without a piece of cloth. Ha felt really scared. Since then, every night Ha has fallen asleep, seeing her parents “in love” is sitting up, eyes wide open to look at her parents through the dim white night light. That image kept haunting that Ha could not get out. Therefore, when she was an adult, she still did not dare to love anyone.
Do not carelessly distort the young soul
According to psychological consultant Le Thi Hoa, her previous client had an 18-year-old girl who was addicted to “love” and could “love” any man.
Although it is physiologically demanding, but deep down in her soul, this girl is afraid of herself. She wanted to control her emotions but couldn’t. The reason is that she has seen her parents make love too many times since she was a child. And do not understand, since when, in her mind only that. She lost her virginity at the age of 12 to an old neighbor.
The female expert shared that many of her clients have had psychological problems when witnessing their parents’ love scene. Therefore, I hope parents try to find some way to have a safe love relationship. Safe love means not letting your children see.
Young minds can be completely affected if parents do not share with their children about gender issues
Also sharing about children’s curiosity about sex on Zingnews, Dr. Tran Thanh Nam, Dean of the Faculty of Educational Sciences, University of Education, Vietnam National University, Hanoi said: “At puberty, in terms of human nature, the child will be attracted to the opposite sex, curious, have a need to learn about the body, sex organs, love, sex, health reproductive health. This is normal.”
He affirmed that adults need to change their conception of sex education, should not be afraid of “drawing the way for the deer to run” but should actively “draw the line” for “the deer to run properly” because today, children can access many “road” through social networks.
They can buy books on sex education and place them in all common spaces in the house for easy access by children. In front of parents, children may not read because they are shy. But out of curiosity, children will read when their parents are not there.
If they catch their children viewing sensitive photos or pornographic films, parents should not embarrass their children such as making them public, aggravating the problem, and making them feel guilty. Parents should wait until the space and time to separate from that event and then talk honestly with their children about love, sex, and gender issues.
Adults can also freely talk about the desire for their children to learn the right channel, advise them to have a long research period, think seriously about sex when they go to college. According to him, that way you have time to wait to learn, knowing the content online can make you think wrongly about love.
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