Discovering that our children are watching “dark movies”, the thing we need to break is not the phone
In the past few days, the story of the artist’s wife Xuan Bac’s behavior when she discovered that her child’s phone contained 18+ images has not come to an end. There is support but more than opposition. Because perhaps, at puberty, it is completely understandable that children are curious about the opposite sex and sex. More than anyone, parents now play a very important role in sex education for their children.
Understanding this issue, writer Hoang Anh Tu shared on his personal Facebook page his views on communication and exchange between parents and children when discovering their children watching “black movies”. Most of all, you watch porn as an excuse for us to talk about sex.
Below is the original article of writer Hoang Anh Tu:
A mother has just smashed her child’s phone when she discovered that her child was viewing and storing pornographic images. Everyone thinks it’s inappropriate, shouldn’t be, and doesn’t solve the problem.
Exactly! What we need to break is not the phone. And more importantly, you’re not the perpetrator, you’re the victim. If parents know that there are many kids out there just like yours. Your child isn’t the only kid who watches black movies.
The age of accessing black movies online is getting younger and younger, now an 8-year-old child can access black movies, especially in the current period when children have to study online. But those who produce and spread black movies do not use all tricks, surround our children, sophisticated “disguise” with quotes and links.
My child, your child, not a single child is safe. So I’m not the culprit, I’m the victim, please, remember! And breaking a child’s phone is an expression of a “authority” dealing with a “criminal” rather than a father and mother with their children.
Children are surrounded by bad websites that they can hardly defend themselves without support from parents
I tried Google with the keyword: “What should parents do when their children watch black movies”. There are millions of results and I believe any parent who wants to know how can use them. So do not say that parents are embarrassed when they catch their children watching sex websites. Only parents who are lazy to learn how to handle it are confused. And only parents who hold the view that their children watching black movies are spoiled and worth spanking will refuse to find other solutions. By if we want to “cure” the child, there are always instructions to cure the child’s viewing of the dark web. Parents go and read. Don’t break your child’s phone. Do not push your child to the opposing side, confront but block the ability to have a dialogue. Since my phone and myself are not the dark web, don’t treat me like that, parents please!
So, what should we do when we catch my child watching the dark web? Even addicted to the dark web? All instructions on Google put step 1 as: “Parents calm down”.
As a parent, I believe that no parent can stay calm when they see their child watching a black movie. So reactions like smashing the phone or putting my child on FB page, I can completely sympathize and understand. That’s the mother’s heart, that’s the father’s worry. But then, what we have to do is more important. It’s to show you that it’s not your fault to watch black movies. And apologize for my negative reaction. That is very important! It helps you to resume negotiations with your child instead of turning yourself into Putin and treating him as Ukraine, bombarding your child. Please! Sit down next to me. We need to talk. Not a bad conversation. But maybe we need 99 conversations.
1. Talk to your child about his feelings. Children need to understand their parents’ feelings. From understanding, the child can sympathize and forgive the parents’ initial lack of restraint. It helps to reduce the damage in the baby. So that your child doesn’t feel like he’s just done something amazing. Remember, a lot of kids out there are just like yours. But your kids will be different from other kids out there because they have parents as friends. So we sat together like this.
2. Harm of black film. I think many parents will not know and it is difficult to explain to their children about the harmful effects of black movies. We just say that black movies are bad, not okay, darkening your mind… Yes, but we can’t convince you. The type of smoking has harmful effects on health, but how harmful is not said. Especially children on the street still see thousands of people smoking. My relatives are also smoking, the 80-year-old old man still smokes, will he die? Black movies too. Does it cause you pain or illness? Does it also have an immediate effect like drugs or alcohol? So what is its real harm? There is a possibility that you will become addicted.
The obvious manifestation is that the child is always tempted to watch black movies. And when addicted, you will depend on watching black movies continuously. Next, you will believe what you see. Sex is not like that. That’s just on the movie. Sex requires love. Just like in the movies, it’s just in the movies, it’s a depiction of sex where people don’t have feelings of love. The behavior on it wasn’t normal sex, it was a money-collecting act like making a plastic cake. Helping children distinguish between sex in movies and not in reality is the first sex education lesson for them.
One more thing, you must understand that watching black movies makes you very distorted. Like the size of the penis, the child’s future behavior with the person he truly loves, this obsession will make him always feel guilty, ashamed, bewildered (ask your child’s feelings to take that as a reference). shared basis). Addiction to black movies can cause your child to be shunned by friends, become more aggressive in the future, and make him no longer the child he is today. Tell me how wonderful I am, now, when I am not addicted to black movies.
3. And finally, let’s learn with your child how to say no to black movies if they encounter them later. By distinguishing links or sub-sites to. You can search for different applications on the internet that are dedicated to helping your child block bad, malicious websites. Help your child find useful websites, interesting movies to help them understand better, healthier entertainment. Show them who they want to be instead of what you want them to be. Don’t draw a pattern and force your child to follow it. Let’s build a pattern with your child that fits his wishes, his imagination, his wishes. That’s the most important thing we’ll do together after this conversation.
You don’t have to be your child’s FRIEND. You can still be an easy-to-talk dad or a mom who shares secrets without worrying about your mom judging, judging, or getting mad. I believe you – that’s what every parent should aim for.
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