Financial independence, independent personality is what many girls pursue. However, reality always disappoints people. Step out of the loud exhortations and into the harsh reality, you will see many girls choose to live like a vines or aspire to live like a vines.
Without saying anything else, if you were in a safe, non-judgmental, introspective situation, you would ask a girl:
There is a businessman / a boss / a corporate CEO who likes you very much. He wants to date me. He is willing to provide me ABCXYZ with money every month, will rent me a luxury apartment. I don’t need to go to work, I can freely do what I like.
Do you agree?”.
If the answer was given in the public message, the girl would definitely say: “Disagree”. However, if in real life, the final choice that many people make, I’m afraid it’s not just the question “Disagree” this.
In 2012, in the US, there appeared a website specializing in “baby cover” Name Seeking Arrangement. Immediately upon launch, the number of registrations quickly surpassed 1 million, even topping the list of apps with the largest downloads for a long time. The website’s founder believes that love is a concept invented by the poor, and lightning love is a creepy, illusory and short-lived fairy tale. At the same time, this person also believes that girls who get a “sugar baby” contract with a rich man (sugar daddy) will be more honest, open and transparent than those who just ask. Ask and give with common sense.
The founder’s sister herself also “supports” on this site. The founder himself finds this very common: “Ignoring the ethical factor, if viewed rationally, it’s just a supply-demand relationship.”
The founder’s initial view has already been determined Seeking Arrangement Not a decent dating site. Here, the key for couples to speed up dating is money.
After a man registers, he will specify his income and expected allowance, such as 500 million/year. For their part, female accounts will indicate height, weight, measurements, advantages, forte, virgin or not, and give the number they want to be provided according to their own expectations, for example like 200 million/year. If the couple can reach an agreement on the amount of support, the pairing will be completed quickly.
That’s it, this site doesn’t care if the two of you are on the same level, whether your personalities match or not, your interests, life circumstances, and educational background are similar. .. All just rely on the word “money” is enough.
I accept the amount of support I give, you have no problem with the amount I ask for, then we are a couple.
Nam becomes “sugar daddy”.
Female becomes “sugar baby”.
They can also call each other “adoptive father” / “adopted son”, “adopted brother” / “adopted brother”, “twin brother, dependent” or whatever they like.
After a successful pairing, they will have real-life dates. As for the content of the appointment, it is not necessary to guess that everyone knows. After that, “sugar daddy” will be in charge of meeting the material needs of “sugar baby”. In return, “sugar baby” also gives what the “sugar daddy” wants and asks for.
Sheet New York Times commented like this about Seeking Arrangement: “It’s not a dating app or a social media site, it’s essentially a low-end online brothel. There, rich men and young women trade money, they don’t look. Looking for a long-term soulmate, they want to exchange money, wealth, youth and beauty”.
Despite this, the site’s members maintained that the site provided the solution to their loneliness problem, and that the girls solved the survival problem. In other words, it is a mutually beneficial relationship. Therefore, the “sugar daddy” and the “sugar baby” still register to participate.
One “sugar baby” said she initially only filled out the information on the web out of curiosity, but then things got out of control when the “sugar daddy” started to come.
“I can help you with school fees.”
“I can buy you a Hermes bag.”
“I can give you money.”
Having tasted the joy of earning money quickly made her no longer want to put in the effort. She didn’t want to go to school, didn’t want to work, didn’t want to try. She has two “sugar daddys”, one in the same city, the other in another. With their support, she has an LV bag to wear, and Chanel clothes to wear.
What about the “sugar daddys”? They also gain both physical and mental satisfaction.
Everyone seems to be very happy and satisfied. However, any material or lust that can be obtained easily carries potential dangers.
In fact, once earning money like this, the girls will be drawn in only one direction: keep searching for “sugar daddy”, you won’t be able to stop unless they are no longer valuable.
The last step of “sugar babies” is usually: At the age of 30, each of their “sugar dads” will leave in turn. They couldn’t stand the hardship, and there were no offers for them to choose from. As a result, they reduce their prices and continue to “sell” themselves. From 20 million/month, they can reduce the number of allowances to 10 million to maintain their basic living needs. After that, the number will continue to decrease to 5 million, 3 million, 2 million… unlimitedly reduced but no one notices them anymore.
It is a fact worth mentioning that even in the first version of Seeking Arrangement or follow-up sites to this day, the number of female members registering to join is always higher than that of men. Many of them are students, are educated people.
The question is, why do these girls accept to become “sugar babies” even though they themselves have too much beauty and talent to be able to earn money in a genuine way? Why can’t many of them come from a decent background, with a very good family background, but they can’t resist the temptation?
You could say it’s for social reasons. For example, economic crisis, high tuition fees, high cost of living, few job opportunities, need to invest too much time and energy. The girls are “too tired” and “too poor” to go this route.
Personally, I think they come more from cultural reasons.
First, the social subconscious still values money no matter where it comes from. In the gray reality, it is difficult to distinguish right from wrong, you will find that almost every giant has 1-2 mistresses. And when it comes to these mistresses, the fact that “she’s really rich” always gets attention far beyond the fact that “she was brought up”.
With such evaluation standards, many girls will be willing to use beauty to make a living. And after being “supplied”, they will not think: “I’m fostered” but just think: “It’s just that I have a boyfriend with a lot of money.”
Sugar babies will have a thousand reasons to rationalize their dealings and they also have a thousand ways to enjoy the envy and admiration of outsiders. The tolerance of the outside world to such existences as “tieu tam”/ “sugar baby” and the owner’s acceptance of the definition of “tieu tam”/ “sugar baby” on the psychological level has gradually weakened the mind. morally degraded, making the invisible concept of “nursing” become light and normal.
Second, it all comes down to laziness and greed.
People are always lazy, young girls are even lazier. I used to think that most young girls today are very active. But when I manage my team, I see that’s not the case.
80% of girls hate work, competition, KPIs, performance and pressure. They just want to work the least and still receive the greatest reward. They want it easy, they want money quickly, and they don’t care about anything else. Life is theirs, they want to not have to work hard and still have money, they think it is their choice and no one has the right to judge. Therefore, accepting to be a “sugar baby”, doing Tuesday, falling in love in the dark has become a very good choice for those lazy girls to strive.
Third, more and more people realize that love is less important than money.
Although unwilling but forced to admit that for many people, love and marriage no longer retain its meaning. Love is no longer sacred. In the eyes of many people, one night stand x time = love. Marriage is no longer necessary. The marriage rate is decreasing year by year, the divorce rate is increasing year by year, the infidelity rate is skyrocketing, the rate of using illicit “dating” websites is so high… It’s all for them. We see that the importance of marriage has been greatly reduced.
Meanwhile, money became the most concerned thing.
But we have forgotten one thing that “supported” and “supported” are not a good investment at all. In this relationship, you become the dumping product and your value decreases year by year. Gradually, you will be eliminated and replaced. And because of inflation, your money also depreciates year by year.
Take a look around and see, there are a few people who do “sugar baby” and do it for a lifetime, there are a few who do “small tam” and have a beautiful ending. Low profits, high costs and potential risks.
In the movie Lovewhen saying goodbye to a giant and choosing to be self-sufficient, Thu Ky said: “I don’t want to be fostered, I just want to be loved.”
Another saying belongs to a businesswoman with a fortune of millions of dollars. That year, she once stood in front of the school gate and told a man who wanted to be her “sugar daddy” that: “I believe that when I was your age, I would have more money than you. But if I accept your offer of child support today, that day will never come.”
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