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“The outside laughs, the inside weeps!”

Many of us adults think that adultery is just a “small incident”, a quick play and it only directly affects your partner (in case of being discovered). Apparently, no one noticed how negatively that had affected the children.

Adults think that they have the “right” to have an affair when the marriage is not as expected; but children also have a “right” to be loved and protected from unnecessary harm. Adolescence is the most sensitive period of a person’s personality and later life orientation, emotional trauma during this time is an irreparable loss.

In her study, Indian psychologist Neha Anand said that when children learn about their parents’ adultery, children often do not express their emotions openly. However, the “scar” in their souls lasts a long time. That event will completely change the moral “compass” of a child, causing them to lose direction and have misconceptions about marriage.

According to this expert, in many cases, boys will begin to become withdrawn, neglect their studies, misbehave and tend to be anti-social; Meanwhile, girls will lose trust with men and have difficulties in love and marriage when they grow up.

In fact, when extramarital relationships “break down”, adults are often busy with their own problems, grieving, angry, “tit-for-tat” or seeking to “revenge” each other. and children are often “forgotten” in their own families, struggling with their own emotional turmoil.

The family with an adulterous father or mother, the most broken are the children: The outsider smiles, the inside cries silently!  - Photo 1.

When the News feed is flooded with stories of adultery, I am reminded of “Dad used to love” by Anna Gavalda – the female author that I read a lot. It is a twisted story when a father-in-law tries to comfort his daughter-in-law who has been betrayed in an angry way with his own story of adultery. That adultery story is not at all a quick love affair, nor is it a despicable “pay off the cake”, it is a passionate and tormenting love; true love between two people “missing the beat” in each other’s lives. They fell in love, broke up, and then fell in love again. The father-in-law in the story was both happy and in pain because he couldn’t break it by himself. break up his peaceful family.

In the end, the third woman left when she realized that her lover could not cross the line, could not use love to face social prejudices.

The father-in-law in the story even returned to his family, but with an incomplete heart, he also hurt his own family that he did not dare to hurt. Women are inherently sensitive, his wife quickly realized her husband’s changes, the wound that never healed in her heart. His son also became a “criminal” when he “escaped” with his lover, leaving his wife without an explanation. His daughter-in-law, then, despite being comforted, even though she understood that love was something that couldn’t be explained by any logic, still had to live in silence with the pain of betrayal that was hard to heal…

In the past, love is something that is difficult to judge right – wrong, but sometimes, people still hide in the shadow of love to satisfy needs that have nothing to do with feelings. This not only hurts the people involved, but also directly hurts the children – the most vulnerable victims of family wars.

The family with an adulterous father or mother, the most broken are the children: The outsider smiles, the inside cries silently!  - Photo 2.

Having an adulterous parent is painful, but still luckier than having a celebrity and adulterous parent. Unlike children born in ordinary families, children whose parents are public figures are always under great pressure. The “golden spoon” always has its price, which is the scrutiny of the media, the buzzing discussion of the online community about “every single move” in the family. The “incident of adultery” of celebrities will quickly become a love scandal, a scandal appearing on the homepages of online newspapers with dizzying speed. Under those articles are a series of comments that are often rude and insensitive. These are the “blades” that create scars that are difficult to heal with children.

Knowing that one’s parents had an affair, feeling the “breaks” of family affection was a deep trauma, but facing the whispers of friends, the ridicule of the main “netizen” is the reason why the pain is deepened. Many children have fallen into depression, avoided going to school, cowered in pain and grown up disoriented.

In the movie Silent Hill, there is a very good line, which is: “For children, mother is always God”. In the eyes of children, parents are idols, the best things they want to follow and also the most solid, safest things they can rely on to find security. whole, enveloping. Imagine when that “monument” collapses, and continues to be “trampled” by public opinion, what will the children be like?

Erotic walks can be exciting, stimulating, and adventurous. But perhaps there are happiness that are more righteous and worthy of being cherished and cherished than that, which is the happiness of bringing happiness to others, to our heritage generation.

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