Adultery is a taboo in marriage and it’s easy to conclude that a marriage will fall apart after one of them “eats the forbidden fruit”. Many views believe that if the unfaithful person is a woman, the likelihood of divorce is often higher than that of men.
However, marriage and family consultant David Klow said that in many cases, women after betraying their husbands tend to want to keep the family happy more than before to make up for their guilt. .
It is not easy to continue to face the person who has his head on his knees while he has done the wrong thing himself. So how do these women really feel? The reporter of Sohu news site (China) looked to 3 experienced women for the answer.
Ms. Ly (33 years old): I feel ashamed of my husband’s good deeds
“My husband and I had to go through many ups and downs to get together, now we have been married for 3 years and we both appreciate the happiness we have.
When the family welcomed the first baby, my husband asked me to quit my job to stay at home to focus on taking care of the children and taking care of the housework. Faced with the responsibility of shouldering the family, my husband became more and more busy, leaving early every day and did not have time to talk to me like before.
I have many confidants that I want to share but I don’t have a companion, which makes me gradually feel more distant from my husband and always feel lonely in my own home.
Until my 32nd birthday, my husband promised to celebrate my birthday with me, but he didn’t show up because he was busy handling work. I was very sad and went out for a walk to relieve my mood, unexpectedly meeting my first love again. We were drinking and unfortunately had a relationship.
My husband doesn’t know anything about this, he still treats me and my children very well. Seeing him try to endure all difficulties and struggles to bring the best for his family, I couldn’t help but feel ashamed for my actions. I silently told myself to fulfill my wife’s responsibilities to make up for what I did behind my husband’s back.”
Ms. Le (38 years old): I clearly realize that my feelings for her husband have cooled down
“My husband and I live in the same house, but because the working hours are not the same, we have to stay in a separate room to avoid disturbing each other, but this makes me always feel inadequate in our married life. me.
During a business trip, I accidentally ran into an old friend of my opposite sex. We continued to keep in touch after meeting that time and regularly set up a private meeting to talk, finally I couldn’t control myself and cheated on my husband because of this friend.
After crossing the limit once, I became more and more shy when I approached my husband and paid more attention to his actions. That’s why I discovered that my husband is also a flower digger, he is loved by friends and colleagues of the opposite sex, often chatting and interacting happily with them in front of me, making me gradually lose my guilt. error.
I gradually realized that my feelings for my husband were not warm from the beginning. Our married life became increasingly cold and gradually turned into a perfunctory business. This is a clear sign that my marriage is also coming to an end.”
Ms. Phan (31 years old): I’m always worried because I have to keep it a secret
“I didn’t mean to cheat on my husband in the first place, but I am a woman with high needs and my current husband doesn’t meet that. Every time I get close to my husband, I’m not really satisfied, but I still have to hide my true feelings because I don’t want to upset him.
Having to lie made my heart burn like fire, so I went to find another man to relieve myself. Contrary to my initial thought, I did not feel happy because I was worried about how to face my husband if he found out.
I still didn’t want to give up my marriage and always hoped to build a happy family, so I cut off all ties with the man who helped me release it and asked him not to come. find me in the future.
However, this secret makes me always afraid and not live as comfortably as before. I deeply regret my rash decision.”
Epilogue
A sustainable marriage is not only built on the basis of affection but also by sincerity between two people.
If you really appreciate your other half, frankly expressing your thoughts and desires is extremely important. A secret can help maintain normal life in the present but it is also the cause of future breakdown.
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