Husband refuses to grow up

I am a construction engineer but work in an office in the province, earning about 20-30 million VND per month, including main job and part time work at home. Her husband is also a construction engineer, working in Saigon. After marriage, he moved to the province to live with me. When she returned to the province, her husband worked in sales, spare time but rarely went to the market, but all the brothers gathered for coffee and billiards, the average income was about seven to 10 million VND per month. My husband often goes out to drink, every time I come back, I get into trouble, my husband and I fight, so he changes, drinks two or three times a month.

In late 2021, my cousin opened a building materials store with a friend, but she didn’t have the time, so she took my husband to work. Every month he will receive five million dong for gasoline, at the end of the year the profit will be shared with him, i.e. we will get a quarter of the profit from the shop, an average of more than 30 million dong a month. Before accepting a job with him, he promised to work hard, enjoy doing business, not to play games anymore. I put my trust in my husband, I thought he would change, but then “the horse got used to the old ways”. One day, when the baby was sick, I told my husband to stay at home helping grandma take care of the children, and my husband sent me to the district to handle the work. Her husband did go to the district but said he couldn’t return until the afternoon. I knew my husband was lying because my account was linked to automatic toll collection, so I reported it to the phone, stopping him at the pool table. Husband and wife had a fight, he said because I forbid him, he must lie.

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Recently, my cousin called me, told him to work for half a year without new customers, only dealing with odd jobs in the shop, the staff also told him to leave all the time, every time he called, he heard a knock like the sound of a marble. I heard and understood everything about the exchange with my husband. He promised not to play again, focused on working to prove his ability. He said he had no customers partly because I didn’t like him drinking and couldn’t communicate with contractors and workers. I agree to let my husband go out drinking with my partner, but keep it minimal, don’t drink too much, stay up to go home and stay healthy. Last night my husband went out for a drink, I put the baby to bed, the older one ran to the lagoon, so my mom and I woke up. Her husband left from five to 10, when he was drunk, he did not know heaven and earth, and when he came back, he fell asleep on the ground. I was afraid my husband would be lying on the cold ground, so I took him to bed, he was vomiting all over the bed.

I’m so sick of it, every time my husband comes home from drinking like that, I’ll cause trouble and curses, but now I don’t want to say anything more. I am very sad, thinking whether to end this marriage or not. My husband promised to change but I didn’t go there, he and his brothers are lazy and like to enjoy.

Many times I wonder, is it because I spoil my husband too much, take care of all the housework and make money, that he is dependent? My two young children cry or get sick at night, and my husband hasn’t hugged me for a while. I heard the baby cry and said that it was because he asked to be breastfed. I mainly do housework, my husband helps me with cooking and washing dishes, but it’s like his wife does whatever she wants, she doesn’t know how to do it herself. I also have a bad time when I take care of all the work, so I always take my anger out on my husband. I took care of my husband and kids little by little, when my husband ran out of money I automatically put it in. Instead of calling my husband to pick up the baby, I thought of just letting him sleep. My style is always suffering for myself, winning more for my husband and children, is that why my husband refuses to grow up? I was sick and still had to get up and take care of the whole family, my husband came home from work without asking if his wife was tired or not.

Sometimes I wonder what I’m trying to do, to raise my family, but my husband is heartless, only thinks about himself, doesn’t care about his wife. I was stuck, afraid that the divorce would blame the children for not being fully cared for, afraid that the mother would be upset because of her daughter. I thought many times but did not dare to step outside this boundary. Where did I go wrong and what should I do to change my husband’s way of thinking?

Quyen

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