Sex education for children never gets old!

Sex education for children to help keep them out of the “bush”. (Source: TT)

As parents, what do you do when you find out that your child goes to the “dark” web and watches “adult” movies?

I once attended a seminar on sex education for children, the organizers asked such a problem. Parents were silent, but everyone seemed bewildered and did not know how to handle it.

The expert who spoke that day opened up, “Don’t rush to react harshly, scold or embarrass your child, even though this is difficult to accept.” And the next suggestion of the expert is that “when we listen to the needs of children in puberty – to be curious, to explore gender, to learn things about themselves, to be instinctive, they I will have the right direction for you.”

That’s the story of nearly ten years ago, but somewhere, sometimes it still “survives” in parenting forums of parents.

Recently, this story has resurfaced and modern parents today are still divided into several sides to argue. Some people consider it a normal thing, must calm down to tell their children to understand and step by step out of the “maze”. Some people still expressed great concern because their children were just growing up… if they did something so shocking, if they didn’t do it right, they would “get used to the old way”.

Obviously, learning and discovering yourself is a very normal human need. It is important to discover how, how to satisfy that need, at what age is appropriate… These are topics for sex education in schools as well as open sharing between parents, children about wearing this “sensitive” shirt.

I still remember when I was in high school, my biology teacher was quite shy when it came to the stages of puberty. That was 20 years ago, but it seems that, now, many teachers and parents must also shy away when it comes to this topic. Of course, how to say it smartly is the problem.

UNICEF in 2020 once had a survey and the results showed that 49% of minors polled had been exposed to online pornography, either intentionally or unintentionally. Maybe this number is higher. But with that number, it also shows that this is an inevitable need of children entering puberty, with dizzying changes in body index, “strange” psycho-physiological changes in the body. children’s awareness.

If the skillful father can pull his son to a corner to talk about changes in the male genitals, ask him to go to the supermarket and choose the right “small pants”. A mother can talk to her daughter about many delicate issues, must preserve, must know how to protect herself…

Today, children are nourished more nutritiously, so they grow up faster, puberty earlier; At the same time, they are exposed to a lot of movies and information related to gender and sexuality and are more or less affected.

Especially recently, children learn online and have daily access to technology. Therefore, they need more sharing and help from their families and schools through seminars, open conversations between parents and children.

In addition, creating a healthy environment for children to participate in to avoid holding the phone all day, locking themselves in the virtual world leading to “opportunities” to go to unhealthy websites, addiction to games is also a way to help. children rebalanced.

Talking about this, Master of Psychology Vo Hong Tam shared: “Give children a healthy living environment, talk to them sincerely like friends about gender issues, and love will help them not be self-confident. learn and easily fall into dark areas that are difficult to get out of. I call it the dyke for children to grow up in peaceful currents. This is an issue that parents must prepare early, rather than wait until their child is discovered… watch adult movies before panicking, venting their confusion on their children with whips and criticisms. It is anti-educational.”

According to MSc Tam, it is the fault of parents to let their children swim in the information pool and “trap” them online, because many people entrust their children with smartphones without any guidance or supervision. use.

In fact, we only buy enough amenities for our children, but we lack the skills and discipline to master themselves before the hustle and bustle of life. Therefore, do not rush to punish your child, after all, he is just a grown-up child.

Master Vo Hong Tam said that from a young age, children must be given a good, close and caring environment so that children can have joy from many practical activities outside, openly share with parents, especially about gender, love, sex – issues close to each person.