Being asked to look after her grandchild, her mother-in-law set 3 conditions, the angry daughter-in-law asked for a divorce

A retired mother-in-law living in Shanghai (China). The combined pension of the two grandparents was also a good amount, so they did not have to think about it. Old age enjoys farming, retirement life is very good when they can travel together, eat, enjoy the beautiful scenery of the homeland, generally very comfortable. But since his son got married, conflicts arose.

The elderly couple are not very satisfied with the daughter-in-law that their son has found, mainly because the other family’s condition is not good. Grandparents have almost no income, their daughter-in-law also has a younger brother. But the son decided to get married, so they both had to give in.

A year later, the daughter-in-law became pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. No matter how much you don’t like your daughter-in-law, having a grandchild can’t help but love you. So, when I had a grandchild, my grandparents gave me some money and often came to help. The daughter-in-law is almost on maternity leave and is about to return to work, so she wants to ask her grandparents to take care of her.

The mother-in-law is a very modern person, she likes her grandchildren but does not want to take care of them because her old age becomes difficult. Afraid to have conflicts with her children because of her grandchildren, the mother-in-law gave 3 conditions to her daughter-in-law, she would come to help take care of the grandchildren immediately if the daughter-in-law agreed:

– The monthly family living expenses are about 4,000 yuan (more than 14 million VND), the parents-in-law will contribute 2,000 yuan (about 7 million VND) to the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law will pay 2,000 yuan. Because the son’s money has to pay off the mortgage and buy a car, this 2,000 yuan must be paid by her daughter-in-law, not her husband’s money.

– Every weekend, both grandparents need to rest, on Saturday and Sunday.

– Parents are here to help take care of their grandchildren, not the paid babysitter, so they can take care of three meals for the family, but if the daughter-in-law leaves work early or doesn’t go to work, she should take the initiative to help with the housework. Don’t see your husband’s parents as servants.

As soon as the daughter-in-law heard, her face changed color. She shouted: “Dad, don’t go too far!”.

The daughter-in-law gave the reason that the monthly pension of her parents-in-law is not small, and the grandparents have savings. There is no shortage of money, but how much can you spend in old age. While she goes to work every month only 7,000 yuan (about 25 million dong), needs to be compensated, but why spend 2000 yuan?

In addition to this most unacceptable point, the daughter-in-law also said that she was very tired after working 7 days a week. Is it unscientific for her to have to look after her children for 2 more days at the weekend to let her grandparents rest and relax?

Seeing that her daughter-in-law did not agree, the mother-in-law gave another suggestion that the grandparents would spend money to hire a nanny to help look after the grandchild until the child went to school, but the nanny was found by the grandparents, managed and paid by the grandparents. The plan looks good to everyone: The baby is taken care of, the grandparents don’t have too much trouble, and the daughter-in-law doesn’t need the money anymore.

Unexpectedly, the daughter-in-law was still not satisfied after hearing it. It turns out that the daughter-in-law has her own plan. She doesn’t want to spend 2000 yuan because she still secretly gives her mother 2500 yuan (nearly 9 million VND) every month to save for her brother to buy a house. If she had to spend money, she wouldn’t have any money left for her brother. The option that grandparents hire a maid, manage and pay the maid directly is also not possible because she cannot hold money, and still has to take care of living expenses for the whole family.

The question is, worrying about your family and loved ones is a good thing to do, but like the daughter-in-law in the story, is it okay? The online community, after reading the story of Shanghai’s mother-in-law, thought that the daughter-in-law was unreasonable.

Firstly, no matter how high the pension of the parents-in-law is, it is their money, they have the right to spend it where they want, or it is their right to keep it. It makes no sense that an old couple who have worked hard most of their lives have to spend their savings to take care of their son and daughter-in-law’s small nest.

Asians often worry about burdening their families, considering family happiness higher than their own, but it is this spirit of “self-sacrifice” that has raised ungrateful children who do not know how to repay their parents. . Young people need to understand, your parents’ money belongs to your parents, if you have parents who are willing to give their money to help and support you in difficult times, that is the blessing you have planted in your previous life. And if your parents don’t want to have to worry about you when they’re old, you can’t blame them, because they don’t have this responsibility.

As for her maternal family, she can help but must fit within her own strength and does not affect her ability to raise children and take care of her own family. If she is a good sister, she should encourage her younger brother to be self-sufficient and strive to buy a new house by himself, rather than rely entirely on his parents and sister to get his own property.

According to Dan Tri