Khỏe - Đẹp

The wife was pale, scared, and cowered because she saw her husband’s “little boy” was “too big”

On the wedding night, having just seen her husband’s ‘little boy’, H. cowered in fear because it was ‘not like imagination’. The young couple worked hard all night but could not do anything. It lasted for 7 years, even they thought they had to go for IVF

This situation not only occurred on their wedding night but lasted for 7 consecutive years leading to late child status. They considered having to go for in vitro fertilization.

That is the situation of a “very special” patient that Dr. Le Thi Kim Dung (Thai Ha Labor Center) told.

Dr. Dung said that she has been in the obstetrics profession for more than 40 years, the number of patients she has delivered, the cases that require psychological counseling, and vaginal interventions such as emergency bleeding after sex or even is patching the hymen… many “can’t count” but the couple Ms. H. (31 years old, Hanoi) she “remembers forever”.

The wife was pale, scared, and cowered because she saw her husband’s “little boy” was “too big”
Illustration.

Ms. H. was an old patient of hers about 7 years ago. That day, Huong just got married, because she couldn’t have sex despite trying everything, so she went to Dr. Dung for examination and advice. After the consultation, the patient happily left.

Suddenly, in mid-2021, this young woman went to the clinic to find Dr. Dung to “request for help”.

“When coming to the clinic, patients are worried and sad. She said that, since the first time she met the doctor, it has been 6-7 years since she tried to do the same things as the consulting doctor, but she has never been able to do “sex”. The couple because of shame, because this is a delicate matter, should not go to the doctor.

They considered going for IVF even though the test results were both completely normal. So she came to me in the hope of having a natural child,” said Dr. Dung.

Listening to the young woman’s confession, Dr. Dung was both angry and sad for this young couple. Why do they endure 7 years of not being able to do that, can’t have children yet and still try to endure it???. Can’t believe that in this era, there are still “lunar” couples like that.

“Through examination of the genitals, there was absolutely no abnormality in both husband and wife. That day, the patient came at the right time of the best ovulation cycle, the possibility of conception was very high.

After consulting the patient, the couple agreed to have sex at the clinic, under the guidance of the doctor. As a result, the couple had a successful relationship,” said Dr. Dung.

Helping the couple to work successfully, Dr. Dung determined that the previous reason the wife could not have sex was due to psychological problems. Every time she tried to have sex, the wife was scared, causing her vagina to contract and she couldn’t do anything.

According to Dr. Dung, the problem of vaginal spasms causing difficulties in sexual intercourse is not uncommon, the cause may be due to a medical condition or a history of sexual abuse or coercion, leading to psychological fear.

“We think that people who are afraid of cockroaches and mice just need to see their hearts beat faster and cringe. The same goes for women, when they are obsessed with sex, no matter what object they put into the vagina (hands, penis, examination instruments) they are scared, since then they can’t have sex.” , BS. Dung said.

Therefore, to solve this problem, obstetrician-gynecologist Le Thi Kim Dung said, the key is still psychological stability for women. Accordingly, the partner/husband must be gentle, psychological, and supportive of the other half to overcome fear.

“Even women should find a way to see their own genitals, put their hands in the vagina to not see contractions, give themselves peace of mind.

Then, combine with your partner to perform each step, first gently reaching your hand and even using lubricating gel. If you feel no pain, feel comfortable, you can try inserting the male genitalia into the vagina,” Dr. Dung instructed.

Dr. Le Thi Kim Dung also emphasized, all movements must be very gentle, if there is a “deviation” impact that causes pain or fear, the vagina will constrict as a protective response to the body. This will fail and the next time it will be more difficult.

H. Phong

You are reading the article The wife was pale, scared, and cowered because she saw her husband’s “little boy” was “too big”
at Blogtuan.info – Source: infonet.vietnamnet.vn – Read the original article here

Back to top button