Parents must hear a lot of scolding from the daughter-in-law’s family

The youngest brother is 29 years old, has been married for a year, and is in law. The youngest couple got to know each other for nearly two years and then got married earlier than planned because the sister-in-law was pregnant. My brother is a technical staff of a hotel. Due to the translation, the salary is low; sister-in-law at home. My wife and I keep arguing, after all, because of money and different ways of living. The sister-in-law said that her husband did not give enough money to support the children. My brother earns nine million dong a month, gives his wife seven million dong, and keeps a little bit for food and gas. The family house is 40 km from my house, when she was born, my parents also came to visit and come back, a few days later to visit her. Every time I argued with my husband, my sister-in-law would call back to tell my parents, asking them to come in, while the grandparents were over 60 years old, motion sickness, and could only ride motorbikes.

Grandparents’ health is weak, only at home raising chickens and ducks, growing a few vegetables in the garden. The family house always comes to play and says: “When the two of us get divorced, my nephew will take care of me. I don’t need you to worry about it. The brothers and sisters are so happy in the countryside, they don’t listen to them arguing.” My parents tried all their advice to dissuade the two of them, but they couldn’t. Near Tet, my brother left to stay at the inn, not at his wife’s house anymore. The climax was during Tet, when my younger brother visited my children, my wife’s parents did not agree, loudly forbade and cursed at my parents. While for a long time my parents did not say anything about that family, did not interfere in their children’s private lives, only gave advice. My sister-in-law called my mother, forbidding my family to accept her, for fear of “my family line”.

>> The youngest sister-in-law makes me uncomfortable

I am the eldest sister, seeing my wife and I unhappy is also sad. I work as a tourist, due to the epidemic, I stay at home as a housewife, have been married for a long time but have no children, so I love my grandchildren very much. I often go to my sister-in-law’s house to play, buy clothes and give money. Every time, I have to listen to my sister-in-law scolding me for being a brother who doesn’t know how to live. In addition, my sister-in-law is close to my parents and I, and I also ignore it. I often advise children to put their egos aside to take care of their children, talk to their younger brother all kinds of things, but he says he has his own suffering, just ignore him, he will get a divorce. Now, my parents and I miss him very much, but we are also proud of him because his sister-in-law said he wouldn’t accept him, and the family cursed at my family. They also compared why not take care and give money like a grandmother’s family, so after the last period, my parents were also silent, did not contact or say anything to the family.

I stand in the middle, loving my parents but also loving and afraid of my lack of love. I also can’t forgive my husband and sister-in-law because I have repeatedly said that my parents, while they live a simple life in the countryside, don’t think about it at all, having a bunch of vegetables or eggs will give them anything. Now what should I do?

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