Hanoi girl receives sad outcome when she trusts her boyfriend for the first time having “sex”

Many women are entangled like silk when they have an unwanted pregnancy

Unwanted pregnancy has always been a problem that causes headaches for women, especially for young unmarried girls. How will they deal with it, how will it be handled and will it affect the future? Those are the questions that always come to mind, but finding a way to solve them is not easy.

Master, Doctor Ta Viet Cuong – Deputy Director of Hanoi Obstetrics and Gynecology Hospital on Campus 2 said that recently, doctors received inquiries and gave advice to a 19-year-old girl, who is a student at a university in Hanoi due to an unintended pregnancy. wanted with his girlfriend.

According to the girl’s part, she and her lover have been together for 2 years and recently sex. Her boyfriend refused to use a condom and said he was going to ejaculate. Trusting her boyfriend, this college student agrees and after her first “love”, she gets pregnant unexpectedly.

The girl said that although both of them love each other very much, but when she heard the news that she was pregnant, her boyfriend suggested that she had an abortion due to her young age, to focus on studying and worrying about the future, otherwise having a baby would not be enough. .

A young girl who once believed her boyfriend’s words had consequences. Illustration.

The girl herself was also very worried and scared by a series of questions and thoughts in her head. “The girl thought of terminating the pregnancy (abortion) but was afraid it would affect her fertility later in life. However, maintaining a pregnancy is still too young, and the future is still very long. After thinking for a while, he became more and more confused, not knowing how to handle it properly, so he asked the doctor. As a doctor, I only advise the best for the girl, but it is impossible to decide whether to choose or keep her,” said Doctor Cuong.

In fact, the above thought and psychology of young girls is a common situation of many women with unwanted pregnancies. According to Dr. Cuong, for young people, to have sex at the age allowed by law is a right and associated with the responsibility to have fun without leaving consequences.

“Unwanted pregnancies don’t just happen to young people. There are many couples who have had children who also have to wonder, think and worry without knowing how to handle this situation. They worry about many things, if abortion means doing bad things, staying pregnant can sometimes fall apart when the birth of a baby can mess up future plans when the present life is over. Due to the above reasons, insiders easily fall into a crisis, confused like silk when two choices are bad and difficult to settle satisfactorily,” Dr. Cuong shared.

A woman should be proactive and decisive in deciding whether to get pregnant or prevent pregnancy. (Illustration.

Solving the problem is difficult but not impossible

According to the Viet Cuong doctor, first of all, in order not to get pregnant, young unmarried people and married women should take the initiative to avoid pregnancy. This seems very easy, but it is not simple because it depends on the will, courage and determination of the partner, where the woman is the determining factor.

So, in the case of an unwanted pregnancy like the female student above, what should be done? Dr. Cuong raised her point of view from the obstetrician’s point of view so that anyone in this situation could refer to her. In particular:

– First think about whether you have a fetus in your body and is this really what you want or just a coincidence. Because babies born with the welcome of relatives around will be very different from babies born where mothers and relatives have to bear a lot of worries and sorrows.

– Don’t give up right away or let other people decide your life for you, which only makes you carry “scars” that are hard to erase. Because in retrospect, you might be wondering if I used to have the courage to decide and take responsibility for myself, now things will be different.

With people around, it is necessary to respect the wishes of women, because the birth of a baby affects the mother the most, who can completely change the “map” of her life, so let her decide for herself.

It’s best to ignore all societal stereotypes about being cruel, or sinful… because not everyone agrees it’s right for you, so you just do what the law says. permissions and you see what suits you best.

Dr Cuong said that in the case of an unwanted pregnancy, doctors will always provide the best and most appropriate advice for women to make a choice.

– Today, with the advancement of medicine, termination of pregnancy in specialized hospitals is almost safe, without many complications and consequences, thanks to a team of experienced doctors and nurses, a more professional health system. So it’s usually pretty easy.

“I share this not to suggest or advise you to get pregnant and just abort, prevention of unwanted pregnancy should always be remembered and come first if you don’t want to have children.” , shared by Dr. Cuong.

– Lastly, if you decide to keep the pregnancy, you should refer to the pregnancy journey, taking care of the baby from birth to being mentally ready. Understand that this decision will change your entire life.

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