April Fool’s Day and the no-joking boy has squeezed the hearts of fathers and mothers!
The news that a 10th grade boy studying at a famous high school for the gifted in Hanoi jumped to his death on the morning of April 1, causing many people; in which there are fathers and mothers who are shocked. The same old reason “study pressure”, the story seems as old as the earth, but it still happens.
However, when the clip of the whole process for a boy’s premeditated death was revealed, perhaps like me, many mothers and fathers had a lump in their chest. Because every mistake can be corrected, only human life cannot be regained…
Whoever blames the father is also pitiful. The screams were deafening as the boy climbed up the balcony rail and let himself down, perhaps the feeling of witnessing it was more terrifying than the person doing it… It’s just that the father didn’t know what was going on. in your child’s head?
The place where the heartbreaking incident of the male student of the special school happened…
My child is in 9th grade this year and is about to take the 10th grade exam, a very important milestone, but he is still very slow with his studies. Games and social networks stemming from the consequences of online learning seem to have filled his mind. Sometimes I am also surprised, because the emotional child the day before his mother went away on a business trip heard the thunder and took care of his mother on the other side, but then… one day suddenly he no longer needed me. Like many other parents, I sometimes scolded my children, sometimes went crazy with the children’s laziness in studying and playing games.
My whole world is now filled with learning and… strange pleasures. Today I tell my child that: “I’m really worried when it’s time for people to feel the ant sting in your ass but you’re still as calm as ever”. The kid said: “I will study privately, it’s better than failing the exam”.
I feel somewhat surprised when his mother used to attend a special school, and my son even dreamed of passing the high school exam… giving up early. The conversation hangs on with mixed emotions. I can read there the barie separates the words… DON’T understand each other.
And then, the clip appeared, it wouldn’t be too unusual if the hand of the clock was just over 3:30 am. I can sympathize with the father tutoring his child right now because sometimes I go crazy like that with my child: “If you don’t finish your homework, don’t go to bed”. It’s just that we often don’t know what’s going on in our kids’ heads!
Because when the incident happened, if you look back, there are too many things to judge, at 3:30 am, why is he still “watching” his children to study? But that father will never be able to know that in his son’s mind a plan for a terrible release… One side is expectation, the other side… depression. But not all parents know what’s going on in their kids’ heads, especially when the abnormalities only show up after that horrible moment.
In the suicide note left behind, this male student wrote as if he had been preparing to do this for a long time, only he did not inform anyone in advance:
“It’s not that my life is miserable, it’s that I’m just a coward…”
The painful words male students left “cut” in the hearts of parents.
Finally he wrote: “Goodbye 1/4, life is like a joke”. But he was not joking, the boy chose a painful release despite claiming a life without suffering.
And on April Fools’ Day, there was a child who made no joke when choosing to leave that any parent would feel a lump in their chest.
As it turns out, there are always more worlds like that.
Parents’ world is “There’s nothing wrong with studying, while parents are busy earning money to feed their school and do many other unnamed jobs” or “it doesn’t know how to love me”, “always only games and games, eats and doesn’t worry about studying”…
My world is “My opinion doesn’t really matter” and then gradually he prepared for a day of letting go of all the studies, the scoldings, even the unheard music… just to stop thinking about it.
As much as I love the boy, it hurts as much as the feeling of a father and mother. Perhaps like them, I was thinking more simply about the things that can go through the mind of a teenage child. This expectation, this anxiety, this love, this care is ultimately rewarded by the one time your child chooses… to be free the way they think they are.
For a long time, I have not really sat down to talk with my child to understand what my child is happy about, what is sad, what has endured?
For a long time, I’ve been thinking about my feelings more than thinking about the seemingly simple world of kids who don’t have to worry about earning money and studying?
For a long time, I only realized that my children had changed, without realizing that I had transformed from a tolerant mother when they were young to a judgmental and imposing mother who lacked recognition.
For a long time I forgot to pay attention to my baby’s feelings and changes inside. We all have a world to live in, let’s look at that person’s eyes, if not simple for one person, it may be complicated for another.
I secretly opened the door to my son’s room, looked at his sleeping son, and thought about the afternoon conversation with tears in my eyes. “You can study whatever you want, I just need you to be healthy there”, I whispered like that! Because there are things that don’t really matter who is right or wrong, what matters is just a chance to correct them?
The hand of the clock has turned to April 2, so the true and heartbreaking story of this April Fool’s Day serves as a wake-up call for fathers and mothers.
Be more understanding and tolerant of your children.
Please respect my other world
Please take a closer look at their unusual behavior.
Because even though the boy himself wrote “Goodbye 1/4, life is like a joke”, that’s when he no longer wanted to joke!
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