I was struggling in the waiting room, when I heard the first sentence my husband called, my mind died

04/01/2022 07:52 GMT+7

After 1 year of dating, I agreed to marry him. At this time, I just turned 23 years old, just left the university gate. 2 years after marriage, I got pregnant but married life has become a long nightmare for me.

There are things that I never thought about before marriage, or rather, before and after marriage my husband is two completely different people.

When they were newly married, the couple had agreed that they would not be pregnant but work together to save money, have a stable economy, and then give birth to a child. He agreed, but his actions were too harsh.

Obviously we both have to go to work, but I have to do all the housework. Since going to the market, cooking rice, washing dishes, washing and drying clothes, ironing clothes for her husband, etc. Sometimes when I am tired, I ask my husband for help, he bluntly said: “The wife has to stay at home to take care of the food, the house, the children, both work together to earn money, the house and the children will take care of!”. At that time, I just kept quiet, thinking that maybe because he was tired, I said that.

After much urging from both sides of my family, I also had to vote. Pregnant women must also understand, the body is heavy and difficult to walk, eating and drinking is not as comfortable as before, then the back pain, hip pain, swollen legs … there are many moments when you need your husband’s help but your husband just lets go. heartbreaking sentences: “Do you have hands or feet that can’t eat and drink on your own?”, “A little pregnant but cried”, “Who is not tired, even when he comes home from work, he’s tired”, “Everything goes to my husband!”, “Whatever you ask for.” so loud”…and the most painful is the sentence “What daughter doesn’t give birth, people still go to work, still eat and drink, can take care of themselves, but why are you so strange?”.

Many times like that, I tried to hold back, because arguing and then going nowhere, every time my husband wanted to win with very funny arguments.

Illustrations

The day I had labor pains, my husband was not at home, he went out drinking with friends and refused to answer the phone. I was very disappointed but could not wait any longer, I quickly packed my belongings and called a taxi to leave the hospital to give birth. Both parents are far away, now I can only rely on myself to protect my children.

Seeing that I did all the procedures by myself, the doctor who specialized in antenatal care for me before also looked at me with pitying eyes. I can only lie to the doctor that “My husband’s phone runs out of battery but can’t make calls, he’ll probably call back after charging”.

After checking, the doctor said that she had started to open a few stools, so she was just waiting for delivery. I struggled in pain in the waiting room, next to no relatives.

More than an hour later, my best friend entered the hospital, he held the phone waiting for my husband to call. It took 2 hours for my husband to call back and the first sentence he said despite the listener not speaking was: “What are you calling so many calls, 7.8 calls in a row“.

My husband’s words made the doctor who was taking care of me also stood motionless. I felt like a knife was stabbed into my heart, extremely hurt.

Over time, I lost faith in this marriage. I want to be freed, but I am haunted by the fact that my children do not have a father, grandparents have a reputation of having a daughter leave her husband, so I stop.

Right now I’m tired of trying to live with the person I’ve lost my mind to. Is there any other way out for me?

(Reader please remain anonymous)