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Experts show how to overcome adversity and emotional depression

Recently, there have been consecutive cases of student suicide, typically the case of an 8th grade female student in Bac Ninh and 10th grade male student Specialized schools in Hanoi have made many people feel pity and sympathy.

The common point of these cases is that the students all admitted their fault, through the letters they left behind, experts recognized that they might have faced invisible pressures, but due to lack of skills to overcome adversity, overcome emotional depressions, which caused tragedies to happen.

Many parents grieve and ponder

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In the two most recent incidents, schoolchildren tormented themselves a lot before ending their lives at a very young age.

Nguyen Thanh Thu (27 years old, Hai Duong) was moved after learning about the recent incident of a 10th grade male student in Hanoi: “I cried when I finished reading the letter, I did not have the courage to watch the clip on social networks. I myself have experienced an impulsive youth, many times I thought about it just because I couldn’t find sympathy.. Loving that student so much, loving both his parents, loving him with all his heart is just a way of expressing himself. It makes me tired now.”

Sharing about this incident, Ms. Vu Hue (32 years old, Hanoi) expressed sympathy, Ms. Hue said: “Parents will think that they have to work hard to raise their children to school, the burden of food and money makes them heavy. put a lot of expectations on their children. While the children think that no one listens, no one understands, plus at puberty, emotions overwhelm…”

Many parents said that the process of parenting a teenager is not easy, sometimes even the parents themselves are confused. “I really don’t blame the parents of the students, because as parents, they all want the best for their children, but there are things that both parents and children can’t understand, so they come to this matter. . One minute of negative thinking can lead to an irreversible mistake. I myself am a mother and my children are very stubborn, sometimes helpless, “said a parent.

Last night, many parents confided that they had to look at themselves. The fear of “I’m wrong” makes many parents cry when they realize that they too have been victims of school pressures and have suffered psychological trauma when there was no sharing from their parents. That makes many people feel guilty when they finally impose on their children.

“Overcoming emotional low points, we will be very different”

According to Assoc. Prof. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam – Psychologist, dean of the Faculty of Educational Sciences, University of Education, VNU, the passing of two students also rang the alarm bells about young people. may harm yourself.

“During adolescence, hormonal changes make you see negative things more heavily. Therefore, during this period, it is not unusual for you to have fleeting thoughts of suicide. This is also the period when you need to adapt, think about the concept of life and death in life”, Assoc. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam emphasized.

Giving specific examples of negative school psychology, Mr. Nam also explains that negative emotions when we face a huge disappointment such as failure in a competition after we If you try a lot, it’s very normal.

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Assoc. Prof. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam – Psychologist, Dean of Faculty of Educational Sciences, University of Education, VNU

In particular, students who have put too much effort and thought for these purposes will easily collapse and lose all life values. They run away from what they can’t handle, remember that it’s just your temporary feelings at some point.

“Each of us lives in life, everyone has some crisis, but you need to think broadly, maybe the cause of failure is beyond your control. There are some of you who use harmful methods as a way of taking revenge on yourself, because you blame all the blame for your failure on yourself.

In this case, some of you choose to run away, thinking that this is the only solution to get out of difficulties. Remember that these are only temporary feelings at that moment, you yourself do not have to follow them. Maybe these thoughts last only a few hours, once we get past the emotional low points, we feel very different.” Assoc. Prof. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam emphasized.

Develop the capacity to overcome adversity.

Einstein or Edison are both scientists who have experienced many failures, life has many paths, the first to succeed is to be the first to survive. Sharing with PV, Assoc.Prof.Dr.Dr. Tran Thanh Nam concluded that in the current context, it is not the strongest and smartest individuals that will survive but those who are best adapted to succeed.

So put off any decisions that harm you, and instead think about where to turn for help. Get rid of everything in your home that could harm you. During periods of emotional stability, do not be alone.

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Young people should not be alone when in an unstable psychological state.

Assoc. Prof. Dr. Tran Thanh Nam advises young people if they are stressed and under pressure, they should apply the principle of self-elasticity. Mr. Nam said: “You guys are just like elastic bands, if the pressure exceeds the elastic limit, the elastic band will break. We have a hard time recovering physically and mentally, so we can stretch but stay within limits. One solution to increase resilience after adversity, like an elastic band stretched, now we have to overlap, we need to develop self-healing capacity to overcome difficulties and adversities.”

Psychologist Tran Thanh Nam also cited specific actions that need to start from the simplest things. For example, when the computer fails when it is needed, facing a loss in a relationship, losing a job or encountering problems with violence, etc.

To overcome these four pillars are required: good physical health; maintain a good lifestyle; develop good social relationships, can be secure and trust each other; develop a good emotional life.

And especially, if possible, stay close to the examples of overcoming difficulties and inspirational people around to redefine the purpose and meaning of life.

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