The male student once wanted to commit suicide from the 2nd floor when he received his average score, but everything changed when he met his parents…
I used to experience academic pressure, angry at my parents, but the truth: I’m most afraid of the scene of “white-headed people seeing blue-headed people”
Everyone had a time when they went to school and had to pass exams. If you have ever studied seriously and aspired to get good grades, you will definitely have to experience the stress of exams, the pressure of peer competition.
And when children receive more of their parents’ trust on their shoulders, that pressure increases many times over. Everyone understands that their parents treat them well, but pressure is still pressure… A psychologist once said: “Children have a better view of their parents”. That is, they will be more obsessed with the words, expectations and pressures of their parents for them, than other people.
Her friend Minh Trang (currently a final year student at the Academy of Journalism and Communication) had an unhappy time in grade 12. In the last days of high school, for several months, Trang studied until 3 am because she did not receive the support of her parents.
Story page: “I have a different desire to study than my family. My parents wanted me to be a teacher – a police officer, thinking that journalism would be very messy. I still remember the day I wrote the application for admission, the last day has passed. but my mother still pointed her finger in the face: If I continue to follow that profession, I will not accept me as a child anymore, I want to kick her out of the house.”
Trang’s parents allowed her to put only 1 wish in the industry she liked. That pressure made Trang have to stay awake for many days and nights until 2-3 o’clock. “Study until 3 am is also very tiring, but I really can’t share it with my parents. If I don’t study, I will have to go in the direction my family wants. Later when I go to university, the obsessions Since that time, it still makes me and my parents no longer talk to be as happy as before.”
Ms. Ngoc Tuyen (Hanoi) is also the parent of a 6th grader. She also had a period of time at a famous specialized school in Hanoi, under peer pressure when everyone around her was “superhuman”. “.
She recalls: “When I was in high school, I used to be dissatisfied with everything. With my family, parents, and school. Really many times I also wanted to be free. I don’t have any problems anymore. You Anyone who attends high school at a specialized school will understand this pressure. When he has only studied for a year, he sees half of his class going abroad to study. Surrounded by good students, he will also be heartbroken.
Plus it’s hard to talk to family. It is a feeling of not being brave enough to die, but not wanting to live at all. Fortunately, I made it through that time. So now I really sympathize with those who are under psychological pressure when they go to school.”
She also said that when she grows up, she will think more about herself for her parents: “When I grew up in college, I was no longer under house arrest by my parents, so I could think more. Now that I’m older, I have my own reasons for seeing parents’ pressure. Especially the scene where the gray-headed person sees the first person off. extremely green.
Now I’m also a parent, I just want my children to be healthy and not get sick. Where do not want to impose on children anymore. And always support my hobby and hope that in the future, no matter what, mother and daughter can sit down and talk to each other so that there is no distance.”
I tried to commit suicide by jumping from the 2nd floor, but it all resolved after talking to my parents
Trong Khanh is a freshman at Duy Tan University (Da Nang). After passing the entrance exam to a famous high school in the province, he lost control and neglected to study. Right in the first semester, Khanh only received average student results.
“Although I understand that I can still try harder in the last semester, there was a time when I wanted to jump from the 2nd floor to commit suicide because of school pressure and family conflicts. When I got a bad grade, I was shocked too. Mom used to say that no matter how low the score is, you must testify, but every time you want to speak, think about the prospect of being yelled at by your mother, or saying harsh words. Even though I know it’s a parent’s outburst when angry, it’s still hard to say anything.”
Things continued like that until the 12th grade, when Khanh realized she had to change to pass the university entrance exam. “I risked confessing to my mother about everything: low grades, lazy studying, truancy… Unexpectedly, instead of scolding, she was gentle and caring.
I feel grateful when my mother chats more over meals, texting 7749 messages on Zalo to better explain the current situation. After that, my parents and I cooperated, worked together, let me tutor Math – the main subject and let me self-study for other exams.
Now that I’m mature enough, I think back to the times when I blamed my parents for being careless, then I understand when my family really wants to be good for me. The only difference is improper care. Now, I’m fine, studying 100km away from home and receiving a lot of support from my parents: Ask questions, take care every day, even send pocket money every week.”
Male student Trong Khanh is a freshman at Duy Tan University
After all, academic pressure from parents is one of the main reasons we talk about every time something happens in the education industry. But really those pressures are as terrible as we think, if there are no parents to urge them to study, how many children will voluntarily sit at the desk to study. Successful people, or when they have become parents, later when recalling a difficult time, often say: If the teachers weren’t strict that day, the parents didn’t guide… then surely Definitely not me today!
Parents, after all, should not put too much pressure on their children. If they knew how to turn academic pressures into motivation for their children, and turn warnings into encouragement, there would never be heartbreaking stories about children suffering from stress, even committing suicide because of lack of energy. meet family expectations.
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