Sorrow is called virginity

I am a 43-year-old man, born in Central Vietnam. When I was 18 years old, I graduated from a university outside of Hanoi. Before going to school, I had an innocent and innocent love for a student, it all stopped at holding hands and passing lessons together. In college, everything just flowed, no one said a word. I got married after finishing my education college in my hometown. Until now, we still visit each other as friends, cherish and always wish each other happiness.

My second love was in my sophomore year of college. You and I got to know each other when participating in social activities organized by two universities. We care about each other because of the same scene from the countryside to the province to study. Both are serious people in everything, so in love is also pure, stopping at the first kisses in life. This relationship of mine ended at the start of my fourth year of college, because I took the initiative to break up. Life is very difficult, I have to work a lot to earn money to live, study and take care of my brother in the first year. I told myself to put everything aside to take care of my life. I have two younger sisters, when I am in my final year, the youngest sister will go to university. We’ll have to take care of each other. I still have a relationship with my ex now, thank you for not going too far back then.

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When my sister went to college, the three of us stayed together. At the age of 23, I graduated from school, then a year later I had a third love, she is also my wife now. Maybe when my younger brother has a good job, my two younger siblings can take care of themselves, so I also have a little bit of burden. I allow myself to be more comfortable in love than before, perhaps this is my true love. When I got to know each other, I also had a pursuer. Her ex-lover also called to threaten and terrorize, but I didn’t really care. We took each other home to meet our families, received support from both sides, everyone thought that we were compatible and worthy.

Because we decided to come together, after nearly a year of love, we went over the limit. Everything with her is exactly what her ex-lover told me, and for me she is the first woman. We have three children now, the eldest daughter is 15 years old, the second boy is 11 years old and the youngest is seven years old. I work and work hard, so the small family is well-off, the house is spacious, everyone has a car. Everyone around the neighborhood thinks we’re happy, which is true happiness, I have no complaints at all.

What I want to tell you is that there is always a sadness in my heart. I don’t let this affect my family, work, and life, but sometimes I think about it and inevitably have sad moments. You may think that I do not know how to appreciate what I have, selfish, living without responsibility…, I also accept. I have three loves, a student love and a new love in my life, I have never crossed barriers or taken away the innocence of those I used to love.

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Many people keep saying that men are mean, taking away a girl’s virginity when in love requires that his wife remain chaste. Is it okay for people like me to ask for their virginity when they come to me? Really, I never asked for it, but only felt sad, a sadness of my own, a sadness that no one would know.

Above are my confession lines, hope you can find yourself in it and look forward to hearing from you. Please confirm, this story does not carry the thought of blaming or criticizing the woman, just confiding and sharing my sadness. I don’t know who to talk to so I want to confide in VnExpress.

Hung

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