Afraid that I will become violent if I continue to love you

I’m not rich, but I can afford to take care of everything, I just don’t have a house in Saigon. She suggested that I stay in-law even though our salary is quite good, our total monthly income is 40-50 million dong, we can rent a house separately. My family has a father, brothers and sisters and grandchildren. I had mentally prepared myself, but after two months I found it impossible.

I have a day to work until 10 pm, the next morning I want to sleep more, but if I don’t wake up before 6:30 to help my sister-in-law sell the shop, my girlfriend will have an unpleasant attitude. Once I washed clothes to go to work, didn’t see her clothes so I couldn’t wash them, but she was angry for two days even though I explained and apologized a lot (hand washing). That night I was very sad, put on headphones and turned on the music. I said turn it off so I can sleep but it’s very annoying. I didn’t have time to turn off the computer but went to the toilet, she was in the room kicking my computer to the ground. There’s a lot more going on. I talked privately with my brother and his wife, her sister-in-law told me it was not good to “tip” like that, the two of them would solve it by themselves.

I am quite quiet, do not like quarrels or violence. I love my girlfriend very much but right now I’m in a mess. Just like that, I will change my personality, become a loud and violent person. My family doesn’t force her to be a bride or to provide anything, if it’s a gift, her parents don’t ask for it. Please let me know if you have been in a similar situation before, thank you very much.

Wind

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