Let your child get used to failure
Recently, many tragic cases involving students have taken place continuously. This makes the public extremely confused, especially students and parents. Discussing the above issue, psychologist Le Thi Tuyen said that the situation of students staying at home for too long during the COVID-19 pandemic was also the cause of the heartbreaking story. Experts have given many useful tips to help parents grasp the psychology of their children, thereby taking timely preventive measures.
The reasons come from many sides, parents need to pay special attention
Ms. Tuy analyzed that in adolescence, children often show signs of psychological instability. Parents need to catch up in time to make appropriate adjustments. The mildest level of children is emotional disturbance, followed by stress and depression. The ultimate severity is psychological and behavioral disturbances. The cause of psychological and behavioral disorders is passive from books, violent movies, depraved cultural products and even from bad friends.
Psychologist Le Thi Thuy: “In particular, the COVID-19 pandemic that has taken place over the past 2 years has had a great impact on children’s psychology. Children have been absent from school for a long time, and when they are ready to go to school, they are anxious because they study online and when they study off. Children who do not go to school will be limited in social communication, cannot talk to teachers and friends. When at home, children may still witness scenes of parents arguing, loudly leading to mood formation. melancholy, angry”.
Another reason is that today, children are not used to failure, poor ability to withstand pressure. So when they stumble, children see it as a terrible thing, do not think of a way to overcome but accept submission. Almost all families have a well-off economy and a full life, creating a low-pressure, low-competition environment. Looking at the poor children who have to sell lottery tickets and collect bottles to make a living, although they are miserable, they still live strongly. They do not succumb to the external environment, choosing to strive to overcome their fate.”
Ms. Tuy also pointed out that the Internet and social networks contain harmful information, which is widespread and has a serious impact on children’s psyche. This is also the reason why children act instinctively.
After the incident of a male student at Hanoi – Amsterdam High School for the Gifted, the clip recording the heartbreaking scene and the last letter spread on social media negatively affected students’ psychology. Many people think that this is prone to dominoes (chain reactions from any behavior).
However, Ms. Tuy affirmed that the Amsterdam male student’s actions were just a “hit”, the student’s psychological nature was like a pile of firewood available, just waiting for the match to ignite. The act of suicide is not a direct cause, cannot create a domino effect. But it does spark possible negative behavior.
Focusing on life skills education, parents need to become friends with their children
Psychologist Le Thi Tuy gives useful advice for parents to prevent negative behaviors. First, the child’s personality is determined from the time he is in the mother’s womb. During pregnancy, the mother should avoid falling into an unstable psychological state. In addition, it is necessary to apply Thai teaching for children to develop both physically and intellectually.
Next, in the process of raising children with many different stages, parents need to change the method accordingly. However, it is necessary to educate children based on care, trust and empathy. Be a close friend, ready to listen to your child’s concerns. The closer parents are to their children, the more they can detect and prevent bad actions.
In addition to focusing on learning, parents also need to give their children moments of relaxation and entertainment: Going out on weekends, participating in extracurricular activities, exercising every day, etc. Contact with people relieves stress. This brings no small benefit. In addition, schools and society need to join hands in the cause of children’s education.
Ms. Thuy shared: “My last advice is to familiarize your child with failure, with difficulties. Tell your child that: Death is not welcome, death is surrender, it is cowardice. Teenagers The teenager is now in a bad mood, so I think those provocative sentences are more effective. But the truth is, dying is easy but living is difficult. You must teach your children to live bravely to overcome everything. difficulties, strive to become successful people”.
“Sometimes parents also need to compare their children with the lottery ticket seller, the person who picks up the bottle so that the child can appreciate life and make more efforts. But the comparison is moderate. If you say it too harshly, it will cause problems. counterproductive, making children discouraged. Teaching children is both an art and the most difficult profession in each of our lives.” experts said.
After the tragic events, many parents are in a state of confusion, worried that their children might imitate that action. But Ms. Tuy advised that parents should stay calm, not panicking. The best solution now is to care, ask questions in time and adjust the way of education.
A few days earlier, after a 16-year-old male student jumped to his death, behavioral psychologist Le Duc Anh also gave advice to parents: “If your child has questions about M.’s story, or even implicitly compares himself to himself, parents should not get angry and yell at them. First, be calm and ready to share everything with your child. After that, analyze it so that your child understands all aspects of the problem. Parents need to point out the unpredictable consequences of the story, especially for the person who stays. However, parents should remember only a few statements. cannot help children properly perceive the problem, but it takes a long process of psychological impact.
Spend your time paying more attention to the innovation of the times. The younger generation tends to develop differently from the parents’ generation. Therefore, imposing old standards that are not appropriate only makes children disgusted and reacts negatively. In order to facilitate parenting during puberty, parents should have a broader view, filter out the appropriate aspirations and allow their children to fulfill within a limited extent.”
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