Literature teacher in Hanoi sends you 6 important THINGS
On April 1, the story that a male student from a specialized school climbed over the balcony of an apartment on the 28th floor of an apartment building in Ha Dong (Hanoi) and jumped down, shocking many people. Just less than a day before, an 8th grade girl in Bac Ninh hanged herself. Or just 4 months ago, a 6th grade boy in an apartment building in Hanoi also acted similarly, making public opinion, especially parents, startled.
As a language teacher in Hanoi, Ms. Ta Thi Mai Huong said that she does not discuss who is right, who is wrong, where is wrong. But she just wants to send to the children – her students, as well as her children, heartfelt words, hoping that they know how to put themselves in the position of their parents. Surely instead of just complaining, you will feel grateful.
Ms. Ta Thi Mai Huong – Literature teacher in Hanoi.
1. Children often resent their parents for not understanding them, but have they ever really understood their parents?
When the father who works as a builder comes home from a day in the sun, his hands are swollen, and sweat is splattered on his shirt, what is his son doing? Sometimes it’s playing video games, sometimes it’s dreaming of new clothes, sometimes it’s eating snacks and listening to strange idols’ music. He asked to buy a phone for tens of millions of dollars, but he didn’t know, this morning his father was still hungry to go to work.
When a nursing mother comes home from a long night of sleepless nights, lethargic, exhausted, every muscle in her body falling out, what is her daughter doing? He came to squeeze her mother’s shoulder and asked her mother one question: “Are you tired?” or not? Remember, everything has to come from both sides. When the children do not know how to care and be grateful to their parents, then please be less demanding from those who gave birth to you. Be understanding and forgiving of each other.
2. You often cry out for pressure, but isn’t diamond different from coal in that it has been subjected to tremendous pressure?
Nguyen Du did not have 10 years of “decades of life”, family variables, and complaints, how could there be “Truyen Kieu”, how could he become famous as a “great poet”? Do you want your life to be worth a diamond or to fade like a piece of coal?
Of course I don’t agree with unreasonable pressure, but you have to understand: Nothing comes easy. If you don’t study (learn both books and life), you will not succeed! If you don’t go through hardships, you won’t grow up! If you don’t give, you won’t get back! This is the rule!
3. I often blame my parents for not being gentle with me, not psychological, listening, gentle, patient…
So when the younger brother played with his schoolbag, what did he do? Did you immediately scream loudly: “Go away. I’ll hit you now!” or not? So when my parents just asked me a few questions, did I grumpy: “Ignore you. What do you know, why do you ask so much?”. Oh, tell me, who is to blame in the end?
4. Adults do not suddenly grow up. It’s the calloused scars, the hurt scars, the burdens… that keep growing over the years
At the office for 8 hours, sometimes I have to run to the toilet to secretly wipe my tears. Back home, sick elderly parents need a mountain of money to go to the hospital, need someone to take care of; cult relatives need to come to help; pile of electricity + water + network bills to pay; It’s time to eat and need money to go to the market; The end of the semester arrives – I need money to pay for school; old clothes that need to be bought new for many years; Broken air conditioners need to be replaced, motorbikes have a punctured tire and need to be repaired… Sometimes, even eating while still fasting, breathing fast, sleeping while taking a nap… how can they still have enough time to learn how to be a parent? The most modern, the newest, the most psychological, the most advanced?
But they have one thing that even billions of people want to learn in their whole life can’t do it: That is to love their children infinitely! So, stepping out of my parents’ arms, I can never find a second person to love me and sacrifice for me like that!
5. Don’t think of learning from foolish actions as a good way to make your parents regret, or at least pamper yourself now! Please take pity on your parents.
For generations to come, people will not consider it a heroic, noble act because they themselves deny their responsibility in the back. The children think their death will make their parents rethink. But dead, how do I have a chance to see that change of parents? Life is long, the future is still bright if you try. Be sorry for your parents. They will have to face the pain, the public opinion, the inner torment for life because they think they are at fault.
And taking advantage of that love to scare the parent is also a kind of filial piety.
6. When she was the same age as her son, she was beaten many times by her parents, scolded many times…
She wrote down hundreds of diaries to worry about one thing: After all, will my parents love me or not? Should I live? However, when she was seriously ill, lying on a hospital bed in the middle of the night, she secretly heard her mother crying, and her father said: “Even if I have to sell my life, I will take care of you.” At that time, she understood, even though they were strict, they used whips and curses, but no one loved her like that.
We are children for the first time, but parents are also parents for the first time. “Daddy is not just born to be a father, but also for the first time.” Being a parent is truly the hardest job in the world that no school can teach. Therefore, every parent has times when they are wrong and so are their children. Know how to put yourself in the position of your parents to understand and sympathize, surely instead of complaining, your child will also feel grateful.
Mai Huong also shared, in the position of parents, parents also need to “see their children to correct themselves”. Do not spoil or do everything for your child, but you must listen and ask for less. Changing educational content and ways of educating children, avoiding imposition,
Today, modern society also brings other dangers such as the spread of harmful videos that many children watch and follow. Children can be led by unknowingly joining closed online groups and infected with distorted thoughts about death.
Parents must accept and adapt to the fact that, in addition to parents, there are many other streams of information and ideas that affect the educational process of their children. And to help children avoid these pitfalls, there is no other way but that parents need to spend a lot of time sharing, confiding with their children, cultivating life skills, especially gratitude, understanding.
Please respect their interests, listen and share with them to achieve the ultimate goal of a happy life.
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