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So that children live happily, 5 things parents should not say to their children

The power of language is extraordinary, the words of parents can be a ray of sunshine to warm a child’s life, but it can also be a weapon to influence children.

Have you noticed the way you talk to your children? Experts suggest, here are 5 things parents should never say to their children.

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Negative label for children

“Why are you always like this, with your messy curly hair?”

“Why are you so shy? Seeing your aunt not saying hello?”

“Are you always this careless?”

“Why are you so stupid? Such a simple question, but wrong!”

Some parents, when angry, are often in a rush to release nags such as “stupid”, “selfish” and “naughty” in front of their children.

However, sometimes parents do not realize that these words are inadvertently giving negative labels to their children. Ordinary negative adult comments will plant the seeds of inferiority in the hearts of young children, and will have strong psychological implications for the child.

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Words that threaten children

“Wait for your father to come home, see how he treats you!”

“If you do this again, get out now!”

“This is a final warning to you! If you don’t listen to me, watch how I handle accounts with you!”

Parents often say such statements can make the child feel insecure and fearful, insecure, which leads to an increasingly alienated and strained parent-child relationship.

Moreover, most of these threats are temporary statements of anger from parents, and will not be carried out in reality.

Once they say too many such words, children will no longer take their parents’ words seriously, which will damage their parents’ reputation. Children will become increasingly immoral and uncaring, and parents will not get good results in educating their children in this way in the future.

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Words that make children feel guilty

“I did everything for you.”

“Why can’t you live up to your parents’ expectations?”

Children will feel a lot of pressure and guilt when they hear such words. To avoid guilt, children will actively help their parents with homework, study hard, have fun and be devoted to their parents. However, children will do it out of guilt, not because they want to.

A child who does something out of guilt may seem very obedient and submissive, but in reality the child’s motivation to learn and obey is not that simple anymore, maybe the child has even beaten him, losing his innate nature.

Furthermore, when children fail to meet certain parental expectations, they blame themselves, and children may become more sensitive, prone to psychological problems later in life.

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false speech

“Honey, you are amazing!”

“I’m busy right now, don’t bother I’ll tell you later.”

“Don’t ask me again, ask your father.”

With general praise like “you’re amazing” just carelessly, not necessarily the child wants to be recognized. We all know that praising children also needs to apply the right method, parents must specifically point out what their children have done and praise deliberately.

In this way, the child will feel the joy of doing it, which will help strengthen behavior and attachment to good accomplishments.

In agreeing to a child’s request, as long as it is reasonable, the promise must be fulfilled. If the father promises something to the child but turns around and forgets, too often, the child will no longer trust the adult, and will hate the parent from the bottom of his heart.

When a child asks a parent something, no matter how busy they are, don’t neglect the child’s needs.

Therefore, parents must understand their children better and be able to fulfill some of their children’s needs if it is reasonable, and should not always be careless.

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Saying insulting words about yourself or your partner in front of your child

“Useless old man…”

“The three of you are too much, so lazy, throwing smelly socks all over the place.”

“Your mother’s words are very long and vexing.”

Research by educational experts shows that most of the feelings of inferiority in children are caused by parents. If parents can be assertive, confident and optimistic, their children will also be filled with confidence in the future.

If parents show low self-esteem in front of their children, they will transmit guilt to their children. This low self-esteem is like cigarette smoke, forcing children to inhale, sowing children with pessimism and becoming increasingly helpless.

If the parents slander the other half and speak ill of the other half in front of the children, it will put the children in an awkward and dissatisfied situation with the parents. This will also make the child feel afraid of marriage and closeness.

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