Ly Nha Ky: ‘Men are afraid of being dominated by me’

– In March, when some beauties like Minh Hang and Ngo Thanh Van announced their love and marriage stories, she wrote a lot about her single status on her personal page, why is that?

– When I know that the single sisters in the association have a happy landing one after the other, I feel queasy not knowing when my turn will come. Before, I was subjective, thinking that there were many colleagues in the same state as me, so I didn’t have to worry. Looking back and forth, it seems that now I am alone. I think living alone for too long is not a good thing.

When I read the love stories written by Ngo Thanh Van or Minh Hang, I was moved to cry. I see myself in their story. I used to think that I would not be able to love anyone more after breaking up, focusing on work. When Ngo Thanh Van talks about one day meeting “life’s destiny”, everything will become beautiful, I find that to be true. Honestly, I’m very happy, I want to congratulate my colleagues. On the day of the wedding, if I have not loved anyone at that time, I hope to receive wedding flowers from them.

– At the beginning of April, it was reported that you were in a romantic relationship with singer Ho Quang Hieu, what did you say?

– It’s not that we’re dating, but just friends, ready to give each other advice, life advice. I’m single now, but that doesn’t mean I’m single. I often receive flowers and love letters from many men, but I can’t nod because it’s not suitable. During the three years since breaking up with a nine-year relationship, I have not fallen in love again.

Ly Nha Ky jokes about having a lover on April Fool’s Day

– What has changed in your standards of having a boyfriend compared to before?

– I do not set a stereotype about my man, that must be the same subject, share the same position, and have achievements to be happy. I need a serious, empathetic relationship, can’t fall in love for a few months and then break up. I can’t continue to waste my youth like my previous love.

In love, I don’t put too much emphasis on age, like there’s nothing wrong with loving someone younger than you. I think the current pace of life is very fast, today is healthy but tomorrow may be unlucky. What is important to me is the harmony and harmony of the soul. I see many young men who are now very confident, successful, sometimes with more depth than me.

Loving and sticking together for a long time requires a man to be brave and energetic. I used to live independently, not depending on anyone. If I love, I will respect my man, will always be gentle with them, enjoy the peace.

– To enter a new relationship, what do you think you need to change?

– I am a person with a strong character, life is not lacking in anything. Men all have their own dignity, it is difficult for them to be wary. Many of my friends used to say that when men love me, they often feel pressured and afraid to be overwhelmed, so they don’t dare to show it off, and are easily matched. For example, they don’t know what to buy for me because I have both a house or a diamond, not a shortage. At work, they haven’t consulted me, maybe they have been reverse consulted.

I’m trying to balance, interact with men in a more subtle way, so as not to create that feeling. I don’t need material things but I want to be cared for, like when he craves for mixed rice paper, he is ready to buy it or go with me.

I learned from the previous breakup. In the past, I spent too much time on work and society, paying little attention to the other half, especially on holidays or anniversaries, which easily made them heartbroken. I was still quite strict, emotionally restrained, or self-controlled. After many years of love, we dare not sit and eat on the sidewalk, holding hands on the street like many other lovers. Now if I find the man of my life, I have to learn how to cultivate it, not afraid to show it, and choose the right time to make it public. I am seriously waiting for love.

– What is your current view of love?

– Love with me has no defeat, win or lose. Someone told me that once you get married, you should try to endure and live. I don’t understand why they think that way. Life if you feel happy, cultivate to go a long way. The rest of the fun, let’s free each other, break up civilization, don’t try hard because it’s easy to pressure and torment each other. I will choose to live comfortably, being myself first.

In love, I don’t want to go through many love affairs because it’s easy to bottle up my emotions. If I fall into that state, for me it is unhappiness. I try to make myself always happy, always have sobbing emotions, secretly love someone, because these things money can’t buy. When everything becomes arid, doing nothing is not fun, life is bland, emotionless like a robot.

Building a company or brand can be easier than cultivating a relationship that lasts 30-40 years. Whoever can do that, I’m very impressed.

Ly Nha Ky shows off her youthful beauty

– What do you do to stay positive?

– Since the pandemic, I cherish every moment in life more. I have a very close circle of friends. If we are sad, we make an appointment to meet, eat, chat, and have energy again tomorrow. I don’t lack people to share with, I just lack people to make me feel.

My family is my current strong support. In the past, my mother used to ask, hope that her daughter will soon have her own home, take care of food, water and markets. When I was an adult and could do everything on my own, my mother was assured. She understands that every decision I make has a reason.

Tan Cao