No matter how much you love, you should let your children bear the 5 kinds of suffering. In the future, you should be grateful
At a young age, when they are allowed to make mistakes and have time to change, parents should allow their children to bear these 5 types of suffering on their own. This is also an indispensable journey for children to grow up healthy.
1. It’s hard to be independent
Many children are overprotected by their parents, so they inadvertently lose their independence. Many people reach adulthood and still do not know how to wash rice and cook rice, or even fry an egg themselves.
Peng Kaiping, dean of the Institute of Social Sciences of Tsinghua University (China), said: “Real parenting is not about growing plants in a greenhouse, but about building a child’s full personality while teach them to face the world alone.”
But there are still many parents who often say: You just need to study, don’t worry about the rest. They are willing to do everything, consider everything for their children. This comes from love, but can parents take care of their children like that for the rest of their lives?
If not, you’d better learn to let go and teach your child to be independent. Like learning to walk, if a child falls, he has to get up on his own. Only then will children have the ability and courage to face the world alone. Waiting for the day to be responsible for his own life, without the firm support of his parents, the child can still continue to move forward in the original trajectory of life.
2. It’s hard to study
There was a teenager who failed the university entrance exam, only getting enough marks to pass the technical vocational high school. His parents advised him to go back to school, but he refused. Instead, he applied for a job in a factory with a group of friends who failed his exams.
He worked hard day and night, often being called to work late into the night. However, the income received is not much. The manager said that the boys just graduated from high school and didn’t have an advanced degree, so they could only receive such a salary.
Even after 2-3 months, the factory started to pay salary late. Every time they asked, they said that because the business situation was not good, they would pay the group of manual workers later. Meanwhile, technical workers still receive full wages. After working hard for several months without receiving a paycheck, he broke down immediately.
At this moment, parents mentioned going back to school. He just made up his mind to quit his job and focus on his studies. At this time, he realized that studying again is not easy, but no matter how hard it is, it is not the same as when going to work.
When we were young, we thought studying was the most difficult thing in the world. But when stepping out into society, many people realize that it is the most beautiful path in life. When given the opportunity, regardless of age, just try to study and accumulate more knowledge.
When the child wants to be lazy, accompany him. When children want to give up, encourage them. One day, children will be grateful for the hard work they put in to get where they are today. It is not necessary to be good at all subjects, but it is important to find the field that makes you really interested, interested and passionate.
3. It’s hard to deal with criticism
There is a saying: “The medicine is bitter”.
Children who make mistakes need to be properly criticized and disciplined, but parents cannot stand up to cover or protect their children in an unprincipled way. Building discipline in children and helping them to be ready to deal with criticism are indispensable factors for children to be shaped into people. When growing up, a new child is like a tall, luxuriant tree, brave enough to face the rain and wind.
On the contrary, if children are allowed to cause trouble without solving the problem, even “blind and deaf”, tolerating such behavior can lead to bitter consequences in the future.
4. Suffering at work
In fact, many parents are afraid that their children will be tired and injured, so they take all the heavy lifting on themselves. They don’t realize that a certain degree of indulgence can turn into a “poison” that changes a child’s future.
Diligence is a necessary quality in all situations. This is a tribulation that everyone needs to go through, endure, and learn how to “win” it.
As America’s Iron King – Mr. Carnegie said: “In order to live successfully, young people must learn to be self-sufficient, removing obstacles in front of them with their own abilities.”
5. Suffering for upbringing
It is said that most problems in children come from the family. A child’s future can also change depending on the parenting style. You can pamper your child for the rest of your life, but once you enter society, other people won’t do it for you.
If you are willing to let your child endure hardship during the fostering process, the child will have a more favorable future. Good parents are the ones who teach their children how to fish, not the ones who always catch fish and feed them.
Life is like drinking tea, knowing how to endure the bitter taste can bring back the sweetness and joy. Parents, no matter how much they love their children, should let go at the right time.
Love needs to know the ratio, it needs to have principles.
*According to Aboluowang
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