Two days ago, Ms. Du was called to school by her homeroom teacher because her son, who was only in 3rd grade, had written a lot of “bad” things about his father in his essay.
With seemingly innocent words, her son describes his father as a person who is busy with work all year round, always leaving early every day, sometimes seeing him only a few times a month. One weekend, Dad came home early and checked his homework.
After discovering a few mistakes in the lesson, at first, his father patiently pointed the boy to correct them. However, after many explanations, the son never understood the problem, so he yelled at him and beat him loudly. At the end of the article, the boy wrote “I don’t dare to like my father anymore.”
The teacher shared with Ms. Du that she wanted to invite her father to school at first, but because she couldn’t contact her, she had to call her. The teacher earnestly told Ms. Du that this kind of parenting would hurt the child. In learning, parents need to be more patient with their children, thus helping them to absorb better and avoid affecting the children’s psychology later.
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From the moment a child is born, the first important task in the family is to raise and educate the child well. However, in many families, taking care of and raising children gradually becomes a “duty” of a single person mothermany fathers for various reasons ignore this responsibility.
In fact, if the father and mother together love and teach, the children will be more comprehensively developed. On the contrary, if there is a lack of attention from either one, the child may grow up in insecurity, affecting his personality later.
“Father” is not just a title but a great responsibility for children. Some studies also show that children raised by caring fathers often have higher IQs. Besides, there are also fathers who can be “negative energy” that makes it difficult for children to grow up well, typically the 3 types of fathers below:
1. The father likes to hit and scold
A child’s temperament is closely related to the parent’s upbringing. If you are always scowling, annoyed with your child, gradually, your child will also become short-tempered when growing up.
Children are fragile and sensitive subjects, if they are taught with spanking and harshness, in the long run, they will panic and gradually affect children physically and psychologically. This black shadow, if it continues to cling, will make the child not like to talk, away from the family, especially timid and incompetent. Just like that, under the influence of the father, the child will not get better in the future.
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2. The father has bad living habits
As a person who is with his children day and night, the influence of a father who has a bad lifestyle on his children also accumulates over time, creating conditions for children to imitate these bad habits.
A father lying on the sofa all day watching TV, addicted to alcohol… leaving his wife to cook, clean, and take care of the children will be a bad example for his children. Children will think that housework is a woman’s responsibility without needing to help or share anything. Children who grow up with that mindset can hardly be happy if they get married. At the same time, they also do not know how to respect themselves and their relationship with their partner.
3. Overprotective fathers
Every parent is very loving and wants the best for their child, thereby forming an over-indulgent type of child. From how I dress, how I eat, what I like to do… all take care of me from AZ.
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However, in this way, the child will not have autonomy and always depend on the parents in all situations. When growing up, children will not have opinions, cannot solve their own problems, but must have other people “help” to overcome. Even children who are overprotected will have a hard time entering a society where there is no such thing as home pampering.
In short, in a family, father and mother have equal influence on children. A good or bad father has a profound effect on a child’s life. Therefore, every parent should try to change and become good examples for their children, so that their children can develop well both physically and mentally and have a better future.
(According to 163.com)
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