Being ostracized when her mother took her to private lessons, the 9th grade girl destroyed herself and wanted to die

The female student constantly destroys her body, wants to commit suicide because of depression

Anxiety disorders and depression in adolescents, if not properly cared for and detected in time, will have extremely dangerous consequences, which is evidenced by the child suicide cases that have shaken public opinion. in recent times.

It is worth mentioning that the factors affecting young psychology come from many sides such as learning, appearance, and the behavior of people around…

Typically, the case of patient TN (who is studying in grade 9, in Hanoi) was taken to the Institute of Mental Health (Bach Mai Hospital) for treatment in a state of self-torture by slitting his hand. In addition, N is also haunted by the appearance of a voice in his head.

According to the patient’s mother, N was very good at school in the past, but starting in grade 8 and grade 9, his academic performance gradually decreased. The reason is that because online learning lasts a long time, N’s computer skills are not good, so he can’t keep up with the teacher’s lectures.

When she saw that her son’s academic strength was going downhill, N’s mother sent him to the teacher’s house for extra tutoring. However, when friends knew about it, many people boycotted, did not interact, did not play with… making N feel sad.

All small external influences make children susceptible to psychological changes. (Illustration)

At one point, N was depressed, lost confidence, pessimistic and bored with life, had the idea of ​​wanting to die. E used a sharp object to cut himself in the arm to relieve stress. N recounted that, after each self-injury, he felt more comfortable.

At the end of February 2022, N hurt himself (slit his hand) more, did not sleep well and was taken to Bach Mai Hospital for inpatient treatment with a diagnosis of depressive behavior disorder. However, after 2 weeks of treatment, N contracted COVID-19, and his family asked to be discharged for isolation and home treatment. Although still taking prescription drugs, the patient did not improve, the symptoms worsened, such as hearing voices in his head insulting him, saying he was a burden to his parents.

Recently, N continued to be taken to Bach Mai Hospital for treatment with a diagnosis of: Depressive syndrome, historical factors, self-destructive behavior. After being treated with drugs, combined with exercise and psychotherapy, N’s spirit is now stable.

Parents sometimes do not acknowledge and face the problems their children face

BSCKII. Nguyen Hoang Yen – Department of Children and Adolescents, Institute of Mental Health, Bach Mai Hospital, said that adolescence is a period of strong development, the transition from childhood to adulthood is appreciated. marked by puberty.

Along with that is the development of thinking, perception, observation, creativity, self-consciousness, self-affirmation, personality growth, coping with stress factors, learning, and accumulating methods. deal with the most stress.

Adolescent depression may present with nonspecific symptoms such as impaired learning, decreased interest in appearance, withdrawal, restricted social activities, or antisocial behaviors. For: dropping out of school, using stimulants…

Doctor Yen said, there is a very worrying fact that, when children begin to express thoughts about suicide, about boredom, many parents dismiss it and “teach” their children not to think about it. to the negative.

“This is a signal for help that parents must pay special attention to. When children express that emotion, it is when they need empathy, sharing, listening… Parents and relatives when catching this signal should ask questions and prompt their children to speak out their insecurities. , my suffering, my despair,” advised Doctor Yen.

Doctor Yen shared, parents need to pay attention to the “call for help” signals of their children to detect them early and take them to a doctor in time.

Think of taking care of your children as a job

MSc Le Cong Thien – Head of Children and Adolescents Department, Institute of Mental Health, Bach Mai Hospital, said that in Vietnam, the care and concern for children, mostly belongs to mothers. . However, with a child, the attention of the whole family is extremely necessary. Accordingly, the way of thinking, caring, and questioning of grandparents and parents to the child is different.

If only the mother inquired and cared, it would not be possible to cover all and meet the children’s needs. Therefore, consider taking care of children as a job, equally divided. Don’t wait until it’s over, it’s extremely difficult to find a solution.”

Assoc. Prof. Dr. Nguyen Van Tuan – Director of the Institute of Mental Health, Bach Mai Hospital, also said that participating in counseling and psychological support for teenagers is not required to be doctors, experts, that parents and teachers also need to have discovery knowledge to support children psychologically, identify risk factors, thereby preventing children’s suicidal behavior.

“During times of social isolation or in the context of family with unusual fluctuations: parents divorce, separation or death of a loved one, children are more likely to face the risk of depression. Identifying abnormal signs in children is the key to helping children overcome psychological problems, “said Associate Professor Tuan.

According to Assoc. Tuan, the symptoms of children showing signs of psychological disorders include: – Reduced interaction with friends and family; – Reduced participation in social activities; – Reduced learning, not interested in appearance, easily irritable, angry …

Up to 90% of cases with mental disorders have at least one manifestation. Therefore, parents should spend a lot of time caring and sharing with their children as friends of their children.