How to teach children non-violence of female masters in France

At the talk show The SACE Journey – Unlocking Gen Z number 3, the topic “The fall of parenting – What do children teach me?”, broadcast on VnExpress on April 5, the guest was a Master of Communication. Nguyen Pham Khanh Van has shared the reality of the “career” of being a parent.

Master of Marketing at ESCP Europe, France – Nguyen Pham Khanh Van has 3 sons, all of the age of Gen Z, the eldest son is currently studying in Canada. With 20 years of experience as a parent, she chooses to combine both East and West. “I do not choose to be stereotyped and impose as only following the Jewish parenting style, or the mother of the tiger, the mother of the tiger, but will often read books, accumulate experience and find my own methods for myself and my children. “, she said.

In particular, she never used violence against her children, but chose to support and accompany her. “My three children are now 20 years old, 15 years old and 10 years old. Fortunately, they are all obedient, study hard and love each other very much,” she said.

Having spent time studying and living in many countries around the world, such as France, the US… Master Khanh Van finds that parents in developed countries spend a lot of time with their families. Children who study until 3pm will return home, parents spend time taking care of, sharing housework, raising children, and playing sports with their children every day. Children are also encouraged to participate in many sports for strength training. “I have accumulated and learned a lot of positive things in Western parenting styles,” she shared.

According to her, after giving birth to a child, parents must be responsible for their children, not the school, the law, or their relatives and neighbors. “A successful child in my opinion is not earning a lot of money, a brilliant career, and good grades, but a happy child who knows how to live, love, open his heart to everyone, listen to his father’s good intentions. mother, be confident, think critically, and be creative,” she said.

To do this, parents should actively talk and share with their children and stimulate their creativity. Citing evidence from her own experience, Ms. Khanh Van said that her two young children, one of whom wants to become a youtuber. Instead of protesting, she chose to support, even brought her son to the supermarket, let him record a video to introduce the products at the supermarket, such as apples, shrimps, fish crabs, if you like, upload videos, no then stop.

The 10-year-old child folded paper to make a wallet, brought it to class and sold 2,000 VND, she said she was happy and supportive of her son, never laughing at his dream. Or the older child who wanted to cook well, followed the kitchen profession, she let her children cook many dishes in the kitchen, if they still like it, they will go to school and invest professionally, if not, give up, that is my choice.

“In my family, I’m very strict, but I always support my child. Children have the right to develop, have opinions and be free within the framework set by their mother,” the female master shared.

Sharing more about a case where parents and Gen Z argued about teaching children with spanking, the expert expressed frustration. “No one listens to the child 2000, I feel so unfair. If that child were my child, I would see it as the downfall of motherhood, the failure to let her speak online,” she said. .

According to the speaker, the child taught his parents a lesson, but the parents refused to accept it.

Sharing the same opinion with the speaker, Dr. Nguyen Tran Phi Yen, lecturer at RMIT University, said that the current way of teaching children of many Vietnamese parents is making children afraid of challenges and afraid of new things. Therefore, it is the job of parents to accompany and go beyond what the school has done for their children. That is to nurture your personality, not to raise the illusion that you will become the most talented and excellent person. What’s more important is to let them find joy in what they do.

Nguyen Phuong