Recently, the Sohu news site (China) published a story about the conflict of Mrs. Li’s family living in Xuchang city, Henan province, China, attracting a lot of attention from this country’s online community.
Accordingly, Mrs. Ly and her husband have been married for more than 30 years, they have two children, a boy and a girl, and both have their own families and full children. Mrs. Ly and her current husband are also retired, thinking that the rest of the time would just be to gather with her grandchildren and enjoy the happiness of old age, but Mr. Ly suddenly demanded divorce surprised the whole family.
When asked why, Mr. Ly only said that he couldn’t stand his wife’s temper anymore and his children were all grown up, so he didn’t want to live with her anymore. When Mrs. Ly heard this, she became angry again, she recalled the times the husband and wife had quarreled in the past to prove that she was the one who had to “be patient” in the family.
Mrs. Lee said that it was not her fault. Photo: Net Ease
The two quarreled more and more fiercely, the two children did not want to see their elderly parents still arguing, so they tried many ways to dissuade them but failed. Finally, they must invite a specialist working in the field of marriage and family to intervene.
Mr. Ly has wanted to divorce his wife for a long time
It was also only with the help of experts that the real reason why Mr. Ly was determined to divorce his wife was revealed. As it turned out, Mr. Ly himself did not want to endure his wife’s character for a long time and intended to divorce many years ago but did not dare to say it just because Wife’s salary is higher than mine.
Mr. Ly recounted the memories that he had to endure during the time of living together. Photo: Net Ease
It is known that before retiring, Ms. Ly was an elementary school teacher and he was a painter at an interior decoration company, the income is based on the job so it is not fixed. Thanks to her long working experience, Ms. Li’s monthly salary is quite high, around 6,000-7,000 yuan (about 21-25 million VND), while Mr. Lee’s average monthly salary is only about 2,000 yuan (about 7 million yuan). million dong).
For Mr. Ly, the salary disparity between husband and wife makes him feel that he has no voice in the family. So even though he was not satisfied with his wife’s temperament or imposition, he still chose to remain silent and did not dare to speak out, gradually building up a feeling of hatred towards his wife.
Mrs. Ly was shocked at this time because she had never criticized her husband for making less money than her before. She also honestly shared with the expert about her efforts over the years to keep her family warm.
However, the expert also pointed out that the biggest problem that exists between the couple lies in the way the husband and wife talk to each other during the past time. Mr. Lee chose to hide it while Mrs. Li was too imposing and controlling on her family.
Both of them have too big egos and do not honestly share their own feelings, so what both of them need to do is simply to acknowledge the other’s contributions and learn to share and understand each other. each other more.
The expert guided Mrs. Ly and her husband to work together to solve the problem. Photo: Net Ease
The story of Mrs. Ly and her husband shows that the problem of a husband’s lower income than his wife’s affects any couple of any age, not just young couples. The “out-of-phase” in money matters easily causes men who are considered to be the breadwinners of the family to create a sense of inferiority, which gradually turns into actions that cause the family to fall apart.
Therefore, for this sensitive issue, not only women but also men need to have a tactful way of dealing with their partners so that no one falls into a state of feeling weak or unfair, contribute to the maintenance of long-term relationships.
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