Have some women sisters changed a lot after getting married. This is very understandable, because pressing on us are many obligations and responsibilities. Not only with her husband and children, but also with her maternal and paternal families on both sides. For those who know how to control and balance well, everything will go smoothly and happily. However, many people also suffer from fatigue because of sacrificing themselves too much. They even forget their hobbies and interests. The story of C. below is one such example.
Seeing his wife coming home late but not cooking, the husband got angry
Because C. is the chief bridegroom, she has to shoulder a lot of pressure and responsibility. Before, when she was not married, C. had anticipated it, but she only saw part of it. The harsh reality came to C. made her come to her senses, indeed to maintain and build a life marriage It takes a lot of work from both of you.
C.’s husband’s family has only one son, and often has to organize anniversaries and events to focus on eating and drinking, so C. has a hard time. Fortunately, she was helped by her husband’s sisters, but every time she returned to her hometown with C. it was like a “nightmare”. Not only that, when C. gave birth to her first baby, she was even busier. Although C.’s husband will take care of the economy, it is already extremely difficult to calculate the housework and take care of the baby with this woman.
During the first 3 years of marriage, C. kept getting caught up in the busyness. She forgot what she likes, which is reading, baking… Until her son was older, C. decided she would have to pamper herself a little. However, what worries her is that her husband is very patriarchal and strict. He rarely sympathizes with his wife, even if he finds something unsatisfactory, he will criticize him directly.
Once, on a holiday, C. sent her children to her grandmother’s house, she also invited her husband to go to the street to play because the two of them had not been out for a long time. But husband C. said he wanted to stay at home because he was afraid of crowded streets and crowded together. Therefore, C. alone went to the bookstore. She likes to read books, especially famous novels. Lost in the world of bookstores for a few hours, C. picked up some good books for himself and went home.
The husband saw his wife coming home late without cooking rice, he grumbled, complained, even got angry. Husband C. yelled at his wife heavily, making her very surprised. Before that, C. told her husband to eat a little late on holidays. When being scolded by the other party, C. only said one thing that her husband had to immediately bow his head:
“It has been more than 3 years, I have not been as relaxed as today.”
She further continued: “I sacrificed a lot for you and my family, just wanted to have a moment to rest and spend time on my own hobbies. You want me to always live in worries and worries, right?”. At this time, husband C. realized that he had never understood his wife before, he also forgot that his wife loves going to bookstores to buy and discover…
In marriage, there are 2 things that women should remember
Don’t forget your hobbies and take time to pamper yourself
You have worked so hard already, for your family, for your husband, for your children. And you deserve to receive the joy, satisfaction. If you find it difficult to find comfort in others, create your own. The hobbies of our youth, we can completely find them again. Such as reading, flower arrangement, baking, embroidery. The moment you can do what you want, you will feel comfortable, comfortable and reduce a lot of pressure.
If your husband is too harsh, point out the problem
Many people choose to be silent, hold back to let the matter pass, and keep the house warm. But over time, you will probably be extremely tired, because everyone’s endurance has a limit. Be strong to stand up to find a voice for yourself, to convince your husband to respect. Communication is the key to efficiency, don’t waste your time and sacrifices.
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