Eh for asking too much of the other party

Today I share my heart, looking forward to receiving advice from readers of the Dating column.

I am 37 years old, a single mother of a nine-year-old girl. After breaking up with my ex, I lived a very good single life for a long time, feeling that was enough, nothing more was needed. Then as time passed, I felt it was not enough anymore, I needed a home, a man with children, a shoulder, a real family. I started my search.

Before, when I was young, I felt everything was easier, there were some people pursuing me, but at that time I had no intention of getting married again. There is a saying “Right person, right time”. Now, the right time, but not the right person. I have a feeling that there will be no other suitable person in this world.

Please describe a little more about yourself so you can better understand the situation. I have a small body, look much younger than my age, work hard every day, eat scientifically and healthy to stay healthy. Postgraduate education, stable career, ten-digit annual income. Maybe at this point, you will probably “hurt the stone”, but really I want you to understand the situation is like that.

I also know the reason why until now. Because I ask too much of my partner. I want him to be about five or ten years older. I feel that I have more life experience than most of my peers, so I am easily attracted to older, more mature, mature men.

I want him to have the courage to feel protected. Hopefully if he has children of his own, it’s girls and he has custody of the children. Because I want to live in the same house with her, take care of her and truly become her family. I want him to have a good career, if the spending ability is not the same, it will lead to unnecessary conflicts in the common life.

In my imagination, it is a family where all members love and care for each other, always give each other the best, and walk hand in hand to the end of the road. To ensure that happy life, the above factors are very important to me and I feel that none of them can be left out. Such a man is difficult to find, if you find it, most guys like the young girl without any problems, don’t like having “promotional goods attached”.

Going back and forth about 40 years old, I suddenly feel almost hopeless, tending to love the single life again. I seriously thought about adopting another girl, and even discussed it with my daughter. If I do that, my chances of getting married again are really closed. Being a single mother with one baby was hard, now with two kids and a bunch of standards like that, it’s even harder. At that time, I must have decided to “give up the game”.

I still haven’t figured out what to do, continue looking for him or give up, adopt more children, then just focus on earning money to raise the children and continue to motivate myself through the lonely times. alone like so long?

Thank you for patiently reading this line. I would love to get more opinions from outsiders before deciding on an important turning point in my life. Thank you.

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