When disillusioned by marriage, let’s be brave… wake up and always give yourself a chance to find new happiness
1. Almost 3 years ago, a friend of mine decided to get a divorce. The question you get the most is: Why pass so quickly? You simply say: “I had a very beautiful and happy time. Although I can’t continue, I think the marriage has been somewhat successful.”.
That thought made you feel relieved, you said: Thinking about the past, the mistakes of you and your ex-husband, you do not feel heavy or cling to a negative feeling, regret, anger. You find all memories so beautiful and precious, and it is those beautiful memories that make you overcome the sad breakup to live happily, not any resentful or sad.
I think that’s a good kind of thinking. We often assume that “Happiness is when we love each other until our heads turn white”. We colorize everything about marriage and think that there is only one path to happiness. I feel sad for the main character in separations and diligently looking for reasons to explain the breakup. But have we ever thought again: Even being in love and sticking together, deciding to build a life and giving each other good memories – is what makes a relationship called a success? And even the fact that they decided to say goodbye in a civilized, independent way on a new path – also called another kind of success?
Yesterday and even today, many people shared Hoang Oanh’s statement about disillusionment in marriage to grieve for that girl. Another person almost rubbed that regret for Hoang Oanh’s efforts and efforts, but in return… nothing. I thought: She’s trying because she wants to preserve her happiness, and trying at the time makes her feel meaningful. And when she found that she couldn’t try anymore, she chose to walk, which were all very fair decisions to herself. Empathy is a good thing so we can share all the pain with others, but instead of dramatizing Hoang Oanh’s breakup, why not celebrate her readiness to enter a new phase full of challenges? The surprise hasn’t come yet. If you’re sad, you’ll also be sad, listening to the story of breaking up is not sad – even a stranger. But instead of being sad about the past, let’s be optimistic about what is to come. Wouldn’t that strengthen the girl even more?
2. Disillusionment in marriage is clearly something that anyone can go through when deciding to bond with the person they love. There are billions of problems that will arise when we live with someone. Differences in lifestyles, habits, ways of thinking… are all things that can separate us. Not to mention that, with each passing day, we grow and mature together, we change and so does the other person. Are our current and future versions of us going to match what our partner wants? Even the person we are now is full of mistakes, we’re not perfect and we’re sure to get along with each other all the time. Those things are the harsh test of marriage, some people overcome it, some people don’t and find a different solution in a new relationship. That doesn’t matter, because that’s how life is. We always seek and seek happiness in all our choices, and not every choice is unique.
There are millions of variables in love and the future that make marriage an uncertain category. The imposition of standards of happiness on modern marriage adds invisible pressures on those within it. Cracks but must try to continue for a long-term relationship to be considered complete. And when we come out of a marriage, we are sad enough and even more chained because of the judgments and the eyes of us as a failure. Why can’t we take beautiful memories as proof that we also loved and were happy? And isn’t the fact that love brings us moments of joy and memorabilia in itself – a form of success as well?
Marriage and love are not inherently a thing that can be committed: that surely if you love, you will get married, and if you get married, you will love forever. Anyone who is married knows that it is difficult for us to aim for a specific destination that will be together forever, but simply to try our best every day. lies in fate. That means that breaking up doesn’t mean that the relationship is considered a failure. It’s simply that we have tried together, but when the effort is not enough to keep the two of you staying, it’s not too bad if we choose to leave. Why is it that when we are disillusioned, we don’t… wake up from the dream? And waking up is definitely not to suffer, but to continue to live the happiest and most honest life with yourself, not with a forced deception just to run after an invisible goal.
3. Of course, choosing to break up is never an easy one, and no one wants to think that one day they will have to say goodbye. But choosing to leave a relationship that no longer brings us joy and harmony, choosing to leave a person who no longer looks in the same direction – also means that we choose for ourselves a brighter new future. Choose for yourself the right to be happy again.
After my friend’s breakup, I learned that the way I look at the past determines my happiness and sadness in the days that follow. If we keep looking at the past with regret, bitterness, resentment, thinking we are a failure in love – we will forever hold a burden in our hearts and that inadvertently closes the door of our hearts. before new opportunities to be happy.
So, after breaking up, even though it’s difficult, just smile gently and appreciate the past. Remembering the moments when we were happy to see that the passage of time was not meaningless. Have the courage to love and then fall, then get up again to breathe life and learn to love again. If there is a mistake, it doesn’t matter, we are tolerant and open our heart to learn to love properly.
There is no common denominator for happiness, so let’s confidently find our own solutions. Some people will find it soon, some people will have to find it a few times to find it, some people are still on a journey of discovery, but let’s be tolerant and cherish every moment you smile with your loved one – even then. yes the months have passed. Because only that will help you have more confidence to move on.
Wish Hoang Oanh, and hope you will be confident on the way to find your own happiness.
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