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When her husband “acts” – Infonet

No one dares to “slap his chest and confess his name” all his life without being abused by his husband because both husband and wife are psychologically complex, fragile and sensitive people.

Not to mention the cause of the quarrel, where the fault comes from, the husband’s action alone is already a crime of violence against his wife.

Violence can come in many forms (illustration)
Violence can come in many forms (Illustrated)

There are many causes of discord in the family: patriarchal husband, difficult person, adulterous husband or wife, paranoid jealousy, irresponsible husband to the family, careful person, indiscriminate person, unstable economy …

A husband, every time there is a little yeast, pulls out his wife to curse. From small things to big things, from the wife not locking the water at night to coming home late from work, from the steamed rice cooker to the slightly salty braised fish… The husband stopped swearing and asked his wife to “serve”. The wife was just tired from the day job and was mentally tortured, if she didn’t respond, she was beaten.

I know a wife. She is an accountant in a rather large agency with many relationships. In order to keep the honor of her family and also because of her business, she almost always has to suffer from “withered inside, fresh outside”. Her husband is very hot-tempered, she does something unsatisfactory, or argues a little, and is immediately slapped in the ear, sometimes even thrown a chair at her. However, after a while, the husband and wife were hand in hand. The wife went out to the street to hug her husband’s waist closely, it was difficult for anyone to imagine the turbulent scenes that almost always happened in their family.

The reason she gave was: “Well, I need my father, I’m short, I have to bear it”. Bystanders heard and were indignant: “Why don’t you react or leave the sarcophagus. To suffer like this hurts myself. If he dies, who will take care of the children, the husband will marry a new wife immediately.” Only the insiders know why they have to suffer.

You can try to analyze some of the situations that led to the violence.

– The nature of the husband is rude, brute force, exposed to the upper leg, lower forearm for whatever reason. This is the type of person who is difficult to reform, difficult to ask of them to change. The only way out is divorce. If not, have to find a way to live with the flood.

– The husband is selfish, carrying the thought of my husband and my wife.

– The wife is not skillful, does not guess and understand her husband’s intentions.

– Men often use the excuse of being drunk (alcohol) to avoid responsibility. The woman was weak and condescending: “Because he was drunk, he couldn’t control”… Thus, the violence still happened.

Women must protect themselves

Protecting yourself is the most important thing when being abused by your husband. There are self-protection situations that sound funny, but are effective.

A husband is famous for being decent, gentle, and reputable to society, but once he nearly beat his wife to death. Almost here as my sister-in-law said: “Don’t touch me, I will react immediately”. At that time, the conflict smoldered for many days, and he couldn’t help but raise his hand to slap her. So, she immediately grabbed a small chair: “You can’t even touch me!”. Hearing that, he immediately withdrew his hand.

There are sisters to solve by where the husband “plays”, the wife “plays” there. The husband threw the cup into the yard, the wife threw another one to make a pair. The husband broke the glass, the wife smashed the plate. Husband throws high chair, wife throws low chair. Even the husband smashed the TV, the wife also beat the fan… After all, the husband had to falter, because the destruction caused by the war was so terrible!

Gentleness, flexibility is the optimal solution. One sentence of patience, nine sentences of goodness. Forbearance here is not humiliation but rather cleverness, self-mastery, mastery, knowing the opponent’s weaknesses to have a calm and effective way of handling it. When the other party talks, I keep quiet, especially when the husband is a little bit yeasty, the wife has to be more sweet (even though I know it’s very difficult).

Of the thirty-six ways, walking away is the wisest and most effective. Only husbands are too thugs and brutes to chase their wives to the end. However, when there is an outsider’s intervention, the husband also falters and the wife is protected.

The story of the couple affirming is “lucky – unlucky”. The lucky person has an acceptable marriage, the unlucky person encounters a bad “other half”, and the children receive it as a result. As is the case with the clip above. After the husband threw a tray of rice at her head, the wife got up and went upstairs, the eldest daughter followed her mother, the next child too, only the small child sat back, maybe she did not know how to walk. This video will be engraved in the minds of children for the rest of their lives, and it is entirely the adult’s fault.

No wife dares to “slap her chest and say her name” for her whole life without being abused by her husband (in one way or another) because both husband and wife are psychologically complex, fragile and sensitive people. Therefore, any woman needs to protect herself in all situations. Protecting yourself also means understanding your husband and knowing him through living together. Know when there may be war and understand what to do for peace. That is the bravery of the wife. Protecting yourself is also protecting your children, avoiding as much as possible the failure of children because of boredom in the family.

The last thing, if you can’t protect yourself, forcefully let go. Letting go is for yourself and is also a way to protect yourself.

According to www.phunuonline.com.vn

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