9 classic mistakes when raising sons many parents make, causing children to repress many negative emotions, ruining the child’s future

Parents always think that boys need to be strong, brave and masculine, so they always force their children to do things beyond their ability.

1. Hope your child is emotionally tough

Many parents are always willing to comfort and comfort their daughters when they are sad, but they try to train their sons to be resilient, not to show or repress sentimental feelings in their hearts. In fact, boys and girls both have soft and sensitive times and it is not good for both sexes to keep negative emotions in their hearts.

Instead of wanting your son to be tough, teach him emotional words like happy, sad, scared, worried, proud, insecure, brave, and practice naming the emotions he’s experiencing. . That way, maybe they won’t show their emotions through actions, but know how to share and describe their mental state. From there, boys will be more comfortable talking about feelings, clearing negative moods or sharing joy with people around.

2. Solve everything with violence

There are some parents who believe that a son’s strength should be shown with his fists. They encourage their children to attack anyone who misbehaves, whether it’s as trivial as calling the wrong name, or taking a toy without permission.

However, Dr. Kevin Bennett, professor of social psychology teaching at Pennsylvania State University (USA) said that “standing up for yourself does not mean attacking others”.

3. Forcing your child to play sports well

Sports are undeniably one of the useful physical activities that help children stay healthy and active. Therefore, encouraging children to participate in sports activities is something that parents should do. However, it is not necessary that your child always be the best.

Each child has a different ability, you cannot force a child who is passionate about singing to play well Soccer and conversely, a kid who loves gardening won’t be interested in handball at all… so instead of forcing your child to be good at a sport beyond their ability, help them do what they want. Sport is not a factor to evaluate a man’s bravery and strength.

4. Boys never become victims

Parents want to protect their daughters more carefully to avoid problems and dangers from society but forget that even boys can be victims of unwanted events.

Parents need to teach their sons from an early age about the importance of body parts, not allowing others to contact them if they don’t want to. It should be emphasized that children can completely refuse unreasonable and unsafe requests.

Whether raising a son or a daughter, sharing between parents and children is always important. Parents should create open and comfortable conversations for their son to confidently share and tell personal stories. From there, every time there is an unsafe problem, the child will promptly notify the parent to find a way to handle it.

5. Anyone who meets her will admit she is a daughter-in-law

Mothers often bring up the story of “making sui” to pair their son with another girl. Actually, this is just an adult joke. But for children, they do not appreciate this humor. And if parents continue like this, their children may develop a wary mentality towards women as they grow up. It’s hard to even make friends with a girl.

6. By default, guys will date girls

When talking to children about marriage and love issues, parents should use neutral pronouns, bringing comfort and benefit to all children. For example, instead of saying “When you get married, your wife and I will…”, say, “When you grow up, you and your partner will…”. This makes children have an open view, respecting different relationships, not just male and female.

7. Not teaching children to empathize, share and live responsibly

Every parent always thinks their children are good people, they will never harm others and commit unethical things. Maybe your child is a good kid, but life is always full of pitfalls and conflicts that can drag your child into a legal circle. Sometimes, even small frictions can cause big crimes, or sexually abuse friends of the opposite sex, both violating morality and breaking the law.

To protect and help children avoid bad things, from an early age, parents should teach their children to empathize, share and live responsibly with themselves and others. At the same time, do not forget to warn that if your child makes a mistake, he will be responsible for what he has done.

8. Boys shouldn’t cry

Dr. Kevin Bennett, professor of social psychology who teaches at Pennsylvania State University (USA) said this behavior of parents is very dangerous because:

First, make your child feel emotionally limited. And you will learn to hide your true feelings.

– Second, cause in the child a skewed point of view. That boys can’t cry but if you cry then you’re not a boy.

Third, make your child think that crying is an ugly and shameful act. From then on, you will not know how to empathize with others.

9. If you’re a boy, don’t be afraid

Fear and anxiety are common human emotions, so it is natural for boys to feel these things. Parents should not tell their children “There’s nothing to be afraid of” because these statements will make children self-deprecating, suppressing fears in their hearts, creating negative and unstable emotions.

Instead, talk to your child about their fear to understand what makes them feel unsafe. Finally, always emphasize to your child that the bravest people are not never fearless, but know how to overcome fear, accept the challenge, and conquer it.