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I have found a “land” with a “powerful” man

Why do Vietnamese women marry foreign husbands, the truth is “disillusioned”?

The news that runner-up Hoang Oanh divorced from Jack Cole after more than 2 years of living together caused a stir in public opinion in the past few days. Before that, the beautiful love story of the runner-up and her handsome foreign husband made her colleagues and audience admire.

Hoang Oanh once said that Jack Cole’s sincerity and proactive pursuit made her flutter. Believing in the right person, at the right time when experiencing events in a love story, Hoang Oanh decided to marry Jack at the end of 2019.

The thought that the marriage life of the 1st runner-up of the Miss Vietnam contest through photos in 2012 and her foreign husband was filled with happiness as in the photos they both posted on their personal page, but the truth made her “disillusioned”. and surprised bystanders.

The beauty once shared about the difficult pregnancy process, the first child was born prematurely when her foreign husband was not around because of the complicated situation of the Covid-19 epidemic. “The most miserable day was the day I went to Singapore. I just took care of my children and did housework, I didn’t have time for myself. Every day at 9 or 10 pm, I also wash dishes …”, runner-up Hoang Oanh shared. .

In fact, not only runner-up Hoang Oanh, many Vietnamese stars such as Diva Hong Nhung, singer Pha Le, former model Ngoc Quyen … once attracted attention when they divorced with a foreign husband for many reasons and hidden corners. Only insiders can really reveal.

Actress – former supermodel Phi Thanh Van shared quite frankly with PV Vietnamese people about this story.

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Phi Thanh Van: I have found a “stop” with a “powerful” man. (Photo: NVCC)

As someone who has experienced two broken marriages with a foreign husband and a Vietnamese husband, has marriage ever made you “disillusioned”?

– In fact, love stories are always beautiful and the final destination is a marriage. However, being in love and getting married are two completely different states. When we get married and live in the same house, we will have a lot of time to fully understand the true personality of a husband and wife.

Originally, both husband and wife were never perfect pieces of each other. When the similarities and harmony outweigh the disagreements and incompatibility, the marriage can last for a long time. On the contrary, that marriage will be difficult to last because if both or one of them do not understand and capture the other’s psychology.

There are cases of getting married but living by instinct, having no knowledge of love, marriage, family, not knowing how to behave, communicate so that the couple can talk and interact with each other on a non-competitive basis. argue, disagree, disagree.

As a result, disillusionment can be possible for some people who set high standards for their married life. After going through all the ups and downs in my love life, I also spent a lot of time cultivating my knowledge of psychology and emotions to be able to become a psychologist, a psychological coach for women. women and understand them.

The love story and marriage with a foreign husband make you feel uneasy, pessimistic or happy every time you look back?

– About my marriage with a foreign husband, at that time, was it because I was too young, had a famous career… while he (Thierry Blanc – Phi Thanh Van’s ex-husband – PV) ) is the man who pampers me. The me of that time was still not a psychologist of love, marriage, family like now and there were many factors surrounding the impact. Therefore, the years of falling in love and getting married and then breaking up happened very quickly.

Talking about regret, my foreign husband and I broke up mostly because of myself. Because, I am a woman, when I make a decision, I will follow that decision of mine. I realized that each thing follows my thoughts and decisions at each moment that I think is the right thing to do.

When I fell in love and decided to get married, I think it was the right decision. When they got married and lived in the same house, conflicts occurred, disagreements led to both of them choosing to divorce, but I still thought it was the right decision. Maybe after 1 year, 2 years, 5 years, 10 years… when each person has a change in thinking, perception, experience of love and marriage, then we will realize the core values ​​we need. respect and preserve. I myself put myself in the past and also have a more thorough view than before.

I look at the past with respect, without regret, with pessimism. Because, the past has taught me a lot of different emotions. Even with the negative things in the past, I look at it in a positive way. If I didn’t go through the wrong things, it would be difficult for me to realize what I was doing was right.

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Phi Thanh Van and her foreign husband were still very salty. (Photo: NVCC)

Some people think that marrying a rich foreigner is a “fashion” of Vietnamese beauties today, what do you say about this idea?

– The fact that Vietnamese women marry foreign husbands has existed for a long time. The love story is harder to tell. If it’s love, it’s probably everyone’s taste, the life perspective of every girl who wants to choose a boyfriend, a Vietnamese husband or a foreigner. That is their opinion, their own decision and I respect all of your choices.

I just hope that the young people get a husband who is worthy, loving and caring for you. He can be from a normal, well-to-do family or a rich, very rich man as long as his girlfriends feel safe, cherished, loved and protected. Maybe the person you choose is a Vietnamese husband or a foreign husband, but if they know how to love you, that’s already the best thing.

I think marrying a foreign husband is not “fashionable” in the current “trend”. Many girls marry foreigners, maybe because they have experienced broken love with their lover in Vietnam, they are afraid and want to change to love someone abroad. Of course, not all love affairs with foreigners are successful. Loving anyone is the same, Vietnamese men or foreign husbands, the success or failure rate is the same.

Therefore, after two broken marriages, I have learned from the experience that learning to love, learning to maintain family happiness is the same as learning swimming, learning math, physics, etc. And we need to have knowledge, then nature. body can practice and live well.

What is your assessment of the percentage of female stars in Vietnamese showbiz who divorce after marrying a foreign husband and marrying a Vietnamese man? What do you think are the causes of these broken marriages?

– In my opinion, if comparing female stars in Vietnamese showbiz who divorced foreign husbands with female stars who married Vietnamese husbands in recent years, the breakup rate is not too different. Although I have not done the actual survey for this case, I see the reason that leads to the marriage breaking up because the two do not understand each other, do not understand the other’s emotional feelings and when the love is over, the sexual matter incompatibility, financial issues do not have a common voice… All disagreements lead to adultery, the end of married life.

Sometimes the affair has not happened, but the insiders themselves are often stressed, arguing, plus the lack of psychological knowledge makes people often give up. And in married life, if both or one of them give up, it is easy to choose to free each other by divorce.

Is there a high – low, gain – loss comparison between choosing a Vietnamese man instead of a foreign man to stick with for a lifetime, lady?

– I myself have experienced a marriage with a foreign husband and a marriage with a Vietnamese husband, so I do not give a general opinion or a broad comparison with everyone because This issue is quite delicate.

I think that when Vietnamese or foreign men get married, they all want to have a happy life. However, if only wishes were possible, all couples on this earth would be happy. Wishing is not enough, it is precisely that couples need to have knowledge of psychology, knowledge of marriage and family… Because, in married life, it is not possible for one person to want to keep it, but must keep it. in both people.

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“A man better than me like that must be richer than me,” Phi Thanh Van shared with Dan Viet. (Photo: NVCC)

Phi Thanh Van: I have found my “landing station”

Have you found yourself a “stop” after the “storms” of love and marriage?

– I have found my “landing station” and it is a “powerful” man, a Vietnamese man that I want to keep to myself.

What kind of man will make her heart flutter after the breakup? And are you reluctant to choose the background of the “other half”?

– Currently, I am encroaching on many different jobs and my partners are mainly in Vietnam. I also prioritize choosing my “other half” as a Vietnamese man with the following criteria: The man is better than me in all aspects from position in society, career, intelligence, knowledge to relationships social relations… Of course, a man who is so much better than me must be richer than me. To reveal more to you, if I told him his name, a lot of people would know him (laugh).

What advice do you have for girls when they decide to live as a single mother after breaking up with a foreign lover or husband?

– I think that all issues from dealing with people, raising children and how to live in this life, we all have to learn. We are literate because we have been educated and it is the same in love affairs. This is a soft skill, a matter of psychology, of dealing with people. After real life experiences, I have worked hard for 5 years to study and practice psychological skills.

I wish all women to be happy, especially Vietnamese women. Because, they are both good at taking care of their parents on both sides of the family, taking care of their husbands and children, taking care of the economy, being good at cooking, socializing, etc. And if Vietnamese women are further cultivated. psychological skills, I think that’s great. That has now brought me enough happiness and I think it will bring happiness to Vietnamese women.

Thank you for sharing the information!

Phi Thanh Van made a mark in the audience’s heart when she participated in the movie “Ugly Girl” in 2008. After that, she participated in many popular movies such as: Angels in white, Bride of the Great War, Milestone 23, Heroic Destiny…

In addition to her sublime acting career, Phi Thanh Van won the silver prize of Vietnam Supermodel 2004. She was also known as the “Queen of cutlery” when she invested “huge” money for plastic surgery.

The actress of the movie “Ugly Girl” has experienced two marriage breakdowns. She married a French man named Thierry Blanc (born 1967). In 2012, the couple divorced.

In 2014, Phi Thanh Van announced her love affair with a young husband 2 years younger than Nguyen Bao Duy. The sweet fruit of the marriage between Phi Thanh Van and her Vietnamese husband is a handsome son named Tan Duc. However, the two decided to divorce after 3 years of living together. Experiencing a broken marriage, Phi Thanh Van is a single mother raising her son, although many times he is entangled in rumors of dating a mysterious giant.

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