In recent days, Ms. Bui Thi Mai (43 years old) who lives in Bien Hoa, Dong Nai has received a lot of attention when sharing her journey of “makeover” for nearly 20 years. After becoming a mother of 2 children, she not only did not lose her beauty but also became more and more young and beautiful, even more beautiful than when she was a girl.
Mai has an impressive “makeover”, young and beautiful over time.
Mai shared: “When I was young, I was a very rural girl, shy, lacking confidence. I was afraid to do anything, even my own clothes were afraid of this person, afraid of being judged by others. get a degree, get a good job, my husband told me to stay at home, never dare to live for myself When they meet, they only know how to focus on their flaws and criticize them directly in my face: “Why are you so old, you have deteriorated so much, your skin is saggy, your pigmentation is gone” making me even more self-conscious, the more I dare not go, the disease is even worse.
And after a long time of illness, pain, chronic illness, giving up, there is an unsuccessful death. Accidentally one day read a philosophical sentence: “Living without health is just existing, not living”. Must live to be worth living, is your own life. And since then, I have made myself aware of being active and practicing sports. I was confident, free to do what I wanted, to do things that made me happy, to be healthy, happy and at peace.”
Mai with her eldest daughter at the present time.
Looking at Mai’s miraculous transformation journey from the age of 26 to the age of 43, everyone scoffed. Few people know, behind that is the unselfish efforts of the mother of two children, both lifting herself up from her illness, and completing her job well to take care of her children and learn to love herself. Currently, Mai is living with 2 children, a 21-year-old daughter and a 15-year-old son. Her main job is a pharmacist and a yoga instructor.
I used to want to give up everything but I couldn’t look at my children
As a mother at a young age, Mai even felt embarrassed when calling out “Son”.
She is not afraid to put on the internet her old image at the age of 26 when she became a mother. It seems that at that time, she spent too much effort on raising children that she neglected herself?
When I was young, I did not have economic conditions, but the single life was very leisurely. I didn’t know it would be so difficult after getting married. So I was sad and disappointed from one thing to another, but I kept it in my heart and didn’t say it. On the one hand, I have to work hard for the economy, on the other hand, I take care of my children and worry about them getting sick. Gradually, I realized that my girlhood dreams were collapsing, unlike my imagination. I don’t have time for myself, I’m constantly working and family, and I don’t dare to take a break. No one on the side suggested to me that: “Let’s take a short break to relax and then continue”, We also forget to enjoy ourselves.
I feel that life is cramped, cramped and melancholy in my heart. So I was born with mental illness. There were days when I was paralyzed for a week without even getting up. At that time, the eldest daughter was only 3-4 years old. He kissed me and I didn’t react. Sometimes I want to let go of everything, leave the country and go.
You seem to have postpartum depression?
Actually, a lot of things happened at that time. I carry all kinds of diseases such as stomach pain, constipation, gallstone pain, hair loss, insomnia, acne, dry skin, etc.
When my daughter was 4 years old, I went back to my hometown. Everyone who meets me also criticizes: “Oh my god, why did you go to the South and become so skinny?” I feel sad, self-deprecating in my heart, don’t dare to go home anymore. Neighbors around my house, people say: “Pearl was a heaven when he first came here, now he has fallen into a cliff. Why did Mai come down so quickly?” Everywhere I go, I get criticized. Also around this time, I was pregnant with my second child. After giving birth, I got sick and fainted
I went to the doctor and the doctor said that the signs of depression are almost like that.
The turning point that helped you overcome difficulties and change yourself as you are now?
I read an article, which meant: “To live without being physically and mentally healthy is just to exist.” So I have more motivation. I go to the gym. The most frustrating is when I prepare to go from home to the practice place, but when I go to class, I practice very diligently.
Around 2012, when my second son was a little older, I went to the gym more regularly. At first, I did aerobics, then I learned a little more yoga at the end of class. Looking at a beautiful teacher, I am very passionate about it, so I am more determined. Gradually, the symptoms of the disease subsided. I have no acne, no sleep, help with minor diseases. I practice intermittently, take a break in the middle, but still “pick up” a bit of benefit, so I feel sorry, I don’t dare to give up.
Aerobic movement ended, the gym flourished. I don’t do weightlifting, but I just repeat the movements the teacher taught me in the corner of the room. I feel like yoga chooses me. I exercise very well, one day I can exercise about 400 abs.
Thanks to her hard work, Mai gradually changed herself and received positive effects.
Mai is young, beautiful and admired by many people.
Going with a daughter, many people do not believe it is mother and daughter
How do you balance time for work, childcare and exercise?
I wake up at 4:30 every morning, go to practice before opening the pharmacy so that it won’t affect my work and children. I couldn’t sleep at night, slept very little, but woke up early in the morning, so I was very frustrated and tired, couldn’t get up on my own. I asked the neighbors to knock on the door to wake up.
After that, after I could practice on my own, I switched to afternoon practice around 12pm – 3pm, taking advantage of the time when the store was closed and the children went to school.
From your experiences, can you draw some secrets to stay in shape and “makeover” as you are now?
In yoga, there are 5 principles that are right breathing, right relaxation, right practice, right eating, positive thinking and meditation. Following these 5 principles will help you balance your body, mind, and spirit.
I personally see, the path of mind and spirit comes after the physical. If I practice every day, my mind and spirit will naturally be balanced. I used to be self-conscious and insecure. These emotions naturally disappear when we practice hard, blood circulates and affects the endocrine glands. I feel healthier, happier and happier.
Your daughter has grown but her mother is still young and beautiful, have you ever been mistaken for a sister or friend of your child?
A lot (laughs). My mother and I often go together. The personality of the child is meek and quite calm, so he is somewhat mature before his age. So every time I call out to you, people are startled. Someone who did not believe asked again: “Real mom?” I answered yes, and they said: “Oh my god, why are you so young?” I think maybe it’s because the child looks old, not because I’m really young.
Mai owns a youthful beauty and style, looks like friends of the same age as girls.
Not only is she a yoga instructor, she is also a successful mother. What are some of your parenting tips and principles?
When he was young, I took good care of him, but when he grew up, I let him be independent. I don’t force my studies. Because I think that in the past, I was very miserable, going to school and working, I couldn’t eat breakfast but still studied. My son was raised well, so he must be better than his mother, so I just left it alone.
I’m not very thorough, but whenever I can talk to my child, I will ask and confide. I try to listen to my son’s story and give appropriate advice. Sometimes, I will borrow stories around to teach my children. For example, when I see a child misbehaving, I will ask him: “Do you think you’re spoiled?” If you say yes, then I will teach you not to be like you. In short, I rely on the reality and feelings of my children to educate them. I want my children to obey the word of mouth, not take the prestige to teach them.
I see the children are humble and sociable. For example, I saw a neighbor’s kid passing by and didn’t say hello to anyone. I immediately asked my son, can you see him. If you say no, I will teach you not to be like you. Currently, whoever my child meets, whether he hates it or loves it, greets him politely. So everyone praised the good boy.
It is known that her daughter also studies and teaches yoga. Can you share more about this opportunity?
She has been learning yoga since 9th grade, now it’s been 5-6 years. Not long ago, she said to her mother: “I think on the first day, your mother told me to go to a yoga instructor course. I have a lot of pressure. I can’t imagine how I could make it through.” At that time, you were in grade 12, had just chosen a career for the graduation exam, and then studied the coaching course until Saturday and Sunday.
So I asked again: “Why didn’t you tell me that day. Now do you feel regret or not?” You just said you have no regrets because you have gained so much from yoga. Before, you used to be very fat and self-conscious about your appearance, wearing your brother’s baggy clothes everywhere. Thanks to yoga, I have a slim figure, invited to be a model, famous, …
Currently, you still do not give up yoga. Every night, I still silently tutor 2 yoga classes, both to practice and to have extra living expenses, and even give my mother money (laughs).
Mai’s daughter also has impressive changes thanks to her diligent practice of yoga.
She is very pretty, has a perfect body.
So what is your child majoring in? Do you have the direction that your child will pursue the same job as her mother?
Currently, my daughter is learning English, and can even teach yoga in English to foreigners. My child’s chance to learn foreign languages is quite interesting. When I was a child, my family did not have the conditions for me to study English at the center, but I played with good friends and then learned by myself, like I had a natural talent.
I have my own plans and no matter what I do, you will always support me.
Mai’s mother and daughter practice together, are friends in life and also in yoga.
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