My girlfriend still refuses my marriage proposal after 6 years of love

I am 34 years old, never married or have children. I am not a closed person, but stories about my private life are rarely shared with people around me. In the countryside, our house is only three kilometers apart. Since meeting you, my life has changed a lot.

From the first time we met, you left a strong impression and I’ve loved you ever since. At that time, I still had low self-esteem, especially in front of you. I feel that I am inferior to her in all aspects, I like her very much, but I do not dare to think that she accepts me. The two talked to each other, sharing about life. Every time I talk to you and be with you, I feel motivated and full of energy.

Later, I told her: “I will definitely marry you”. From then on, I began to pursue her. After two years of relentless pursuit, she agreed to be my lover. Years of love have many beautiful memories. You are always by my side encouraging and helping me to improve myself. I feel very lucky to have met you. Yet every time I mentioned the wedding, she avoided it and often said, “I don’t feel ready to get married”. After such times, I looked back at myself and told myself that I would try to make you feel the safest. I learned to cook delicious dishes that she liked, changed myself from the way I dress, communicate, and put a lot of effort into my work.

>> Girlfriend only loves but refuses to marry me

After a few years looking back, I see that I have changed quite a lot, also think that after getting married, I need to have a house, this is also the thing that gives me the most pressure. Six months in a row, after going to work, I ride my motorbike to see and learn about the real estate market in Hanoi, both residential land and apartments. The location of the apartment must be suitable for my and my brother’s commute, then the quality of the surrounding works and utilities, and the balance of financial resources must be calculated. Near the end of last year, I finished closing the apartment, it was fine. I invited her over to my house to play, she liked it and complimented it on how beautiful it is. She asked me if I had to borrow money from the bank, I said: “You borrow a little and it’s completely within your ability”.

At the beginning of this year, I was ready for everything, confident that I could take care of you. I bought a ring and proposed, but she still refused. I held the ring, cried silently, thinking in my head, did you not want to marry me? A few days after I calmed down, I asked, “Why don’t you accept my proposal?” She replied: “Among the men chasing, you are the best to me. I also love you very much but not ready for married life.” Then she said that she wanted to challenge herself, temporarily the two of them would stop, not talk or see each other anymore, whether they can come together or not depends on their fate. She hugged me and cried. I accepted your offer because I knew there was no other choice.

Up to now, we have not contacted for more than a month. There were times when I sat alone in the house and lost my way, not knowing what to do. We had many memories together, now everything is basic and you are not with me anymore. I gradually had to learn to live without you by my side. This is a difficult time and it is not known where things will go. Hope you will share.

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