Disappointed in your husband after your wedding

I am 32 years old, my husband is 34 years old. I work as an accountant for a small company, so I’m quite busy doing it alone. My husband works in construction, is very busy, often leaves early at night, so almost everything in the house is done by me, from picking up children to taking care, cooking, cleaning the house… I gave birth to two children quite close. , two-year-old and four-year-old children do not have grandparents nearby, so taking care of them is very difficult. Every time I finish my shift, I rotate with work, at the earliest it is eight o’clock in the evening to finish the housework. Because of the characteristics of my husband’s work, I did not complain much, so that he could rest assured that he would go to work to earn money to take care of his family better.

I have very few friends, almost after getting married, I no longer contact friends, only a group of very close friends from the same hometown, the same neighborhood, the same age, went to the same school until 12th grade. work, we only see each other every Tet holiday. Although we rarely see each other, we still keep in touch with a group chat. I also made it clear that this group of friends were simply childhood friends, without any love between men and women. It can be said that this group of friends is the most beautiful period of my youth. The group has four people, two men and two women, three are married, and one male friend is getting married this weekend. You texted the wedding invitation and said that among the friends in the countryside, only the three of us were invited, trying to make you happy. We both confirmed that we would attend your friend’s wedding because that day was the day my husband was off, and I thought I could go. This is also the wedding of my friends that my husband only went after five years.

>> My husband’s best friend was angry because we didn’t come to the wedding

I told my husband that I was going to a wedding at the weekend, that I was a very close friend in the countryside. Husband said: “What to marry”, I was a bit surprised and asked: “What are you saying”, he stopped talking. Knowing that my husband didn’t like it, I said, “Or should the whole family go?” Husband said: “It’s far away, take me to do.” I just asked, what do you want now, my husband told me to go and then who will take care of the children, he can’t see it, he told me to send the congratulatory money. I asked him if he was serious or joking, he was a father and said he couldn’t take care of his children, or should I show him or her alone? So the times when he came home from work late, went out to drink, went to a wedding, went on a business trip, who watched the two of them, now he watched it for less than four hours and said the same thing.

My husband turned to another matter, saying that, why was my brother’s wedding excited when I went to Vinh Long, but when I returned to his sister’s house in Quang Nam, I counted back and forth so that his family could talk about this and that. I told him: “These are two separate cases. New Year’s Eve about the sick child and the sick child, he himself said let him go, taking the child is too extreme. My brother’s wedding is in here, the children are completely normal, I also agreed to go, now what do you say. I don’t care what your family says, seeing that you are in pain, but you still have to go more than 200 km to visit her house, there is nothing to say.” I also asked again, why did your sister’s family make you go, but the two sisters’ family was right in the district, he kept making appointments to delay, until he said it was over, he drank again and couldn’t get up. Do not use this matter to kick over other things, each story is a different matter.

I was so angry that I burst into tears and said to him: “You have two daughters, later she has a husband and her husband behaves like that, do you know if it hurts? It’s okay with the paternal house, the grandmother’s family, whatever. , then at that time he would sit and miss his son and grandchild, but his husband didn’t bring him back, he also sat and cried.I was angry not because I couldn’t go to my friend’s wedding but disappointed in my husband’s behavior. work, sacrifice for the family is too much, so he feels normal, it’s natural imagine what it would be like.

>> Being interrogated when I didn’t go to my husband’s relative’s wedding

I broke down completely, feeling so bad when I finished my sacrifice, people wiped my hands. I told my husband that I didn’t expect him to be so petty and selfish, comparing me with unrelated matters. Before, he wanted to go where he wanted to, do whatever he wanted, I was the rear to take care of the whole family, so he felt normal. Now I want to go to my friend’s wedding, but I have to say it like I’m begging you to go. I also have freedom, the right to meet friends, not just you. My brother and I finished arguing, from that day until now, we did not talk to each other anymore, everyone did their part. Me and my two children live as if he was not at home.

I still decide to go to my friend’s wedding, and it’s up to you to take care of the children or not. It’s not that going to the wedding is too important, but I want you to know that my wife also has a life of her own, and also let him know how it feels to look after my children and wait for my husband to return. Swapping places for four hours isn’t much, I believe you’ll know what it’s like to be at home waiting for someone else to come home. As for me, now I look at my husband with a completely different gaze.

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