The whisper that gave birth to a dark door made the “innocent bride” come to her senses
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No matter who says “different from heartbreak” for the relationship step mother Thu Hoai (Ha Dong, Hanoi) also thinks that if she treats her mother-in-law well, she can’t be bad to her. That’s why Hoai stepped in marriage ready to live with her mother-in-law, even though she could then choose a husband and wife to live separately.
Hoai thinks that many people’s relationship problems are also because the daughter-in-law does not open her heart, so her mother-in-law is prejudiced. Returning to her husband’s house, Hoai tries to be as natural as her own child so that she doesn’t feel like she has a stranger in the house. She thoughtlessly talked, confided in her mother-in-law, bought her mother-in-law something, because Hoai’s mother said:Adults love to confide. As long as you are friendly and open, you will have her as an ally. After that, she took care of the children and didn’t go anywhere.”
However, her mother-in-law did not seem to be intimate again, one day she even said to her father-in-law and she heard: “There are more people in the house that I don’t know”. Hearing this sentence, Hoai’s carelessness suddenly decreased. However, Hoai still reassured himself that it was actually a normal mentality.
In addition, her mother-in-law also interfered in raising children, making her awkward at times, but because of the precious harmony, Hoai also tried to hold back.
However, one day she heard her mother-in-law whispering behind the door when the dinner was over “Just say you’re busy and come home early so he can wash the dishes. There’s no point in eating all day without sitting still.”then Hoai really believes that all his efforts are in vain.
It turns out that living with a mother-in-law is always a difficult problem that no one thinks of themselves as an exception. In addition, there is another problem that she is too naive to believe her husband…
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Her mother-in-law said that she “doesn’t work all day without doing anything” for a reason. Before the wedding, Hoai worked as an accountant, her income was quite good, but her husband Son had a much better income, Son’s family was in the category of money. Therefore, Son said: “You stay at home, I take care of two simple mothers and children, don’t have to go to work to make the pressure come back to anger your husband and yell at children”. When Hoai was hesitating, Son made an excuse to let her children go young and not feel secure, her parents-in-law were old and promised that she could do whatever she wanted when she was a little stronger. Hoai listened to Son.
Although the family has conditions, they do not hire a maid because Son’s parents say they don’t like having strangers in the house. Therefore, even though Hoai was at home, she was always busy with her hands and feet, so the fact that she went to work was even happier. Although Hoai’s stomach thinks this is an effort for the family, Hoai’s parents-in-law do not think so.
Although the current economic conditions are not, but grandparents are also poor people, and old people carry the old ideology that people at home are parasites. Therefore, this is also the key to her parents-in-law’s disapproval even though she tried very hard to place herself as her own child.
Hoai’s husband sometimes spoke out when he saw his mother-in-law complaining about his daughter-in-law: “You work hard, I only have to do things at home, but I also cause trouble…”.
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Although the conflict was not too serious, but after that time Hoai decided to go to work and send her children to school. Hoai thinks she will teach her daughter 2 profound lessons from herself, which is probably true for many other women.
Firstly, if you have the right to choose, it is best not to live with your mother-in-law. In fact, not every mother-in-law is bad, every mother-in-law will contradict her daughter-in-law. But the fact that two generations live together, especially after having children, will arise unnecessary conflicts because of different thinking.
In some situations, if conditions make it necessary to live with your mother-in-law, you may have to try, but if you have a choice, live independently and independently. Although sometimes it is more difficult in terms of hands and feet, even though it is more busy in taking care of children, but the mind and spirit are at ease. And more especially, independence also helps your man grow up when living away from his parents.
According to expert advice, every family needs a private space to develop independently. Although the parents-in-law are always part of the family and the conflict that arises is not entirely the fault of the daughter-in-law or the mother-in-law. But keeping a healthy distance is essential, the key to a good relationship.
Second, do not believe the husband saying “at home to adopt”. There is nothing wrong with women who can choose to stay at home and take care of the family. But there have been many bad examples where it is normal to be happy, and then equality suddenly disappears over time. When you suddenly become a “freelance”, the whole world shrinks into a husband and a child. And your man goes outside to wave in the open sea and suddenly has an attitude to “the wife at home”.
Chances are, even if your husband is the one who suggested it, one day you will hear the saying: “I worked hard, you only have to do at home…”. Moreover, even though the husband is sometimes comfortable with his wife’s stay at home, his parents-in-law and the people around him are not satisfied with that, causing unpredictable consequences.
When staying at home, the husband’s worldview of a housewife seems to be different and the view may become more negative, because the woman herself has lost the dynamic person she once had and lost. Even the dreams and ambitions that I used to have.
Not only women, even men, family is always important. That is absolutely right! But the truth, after getting married does not mean that all priorities and concerns for women must be devoted to their husbands, children and family to be a standard woman.
In fact, thinking how will give you a path like that, you absolutely can have a happy family and a career as you want if you believe it is the right thing.
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