Girlfriend is not ready to go back to my hometown to live after marriage

I am 38 years old, you are 37 years old. I live in the West, and you work as a bank in Dong Nai for over 10 years. I am good looking and have a decent income.

When I talked about getting married and meant to say that she was going back to her hometown to live, she said that in the immediate future, after a few years of marriage, each of them would live in one place, or when they had children, they would leave them to their grandmother to look after, and she would continue to work there. I asked why the couple did not live together after marriage, she said she wanted to dedicate a few more years, create a relationship so that when her sister graduates from school, then find a way to send her to work in a bank like that, while her younger sister She is just in grade 12. She also said that she could apply for a job transfer to a bank branch in my hometown, but she had to work for a year or two before giving birth, then she couldn’t give birth immediately, while she was 37 years old.

When I asked her about financial management and money after marriage, she told each person to manage their own, then asked me to send money every month to support my wife and children. One more thing I feel, she wants to be closer to her parents than living with her husband’s house. She is quite hot-tempered, before she met me, she had a relationship for more than 10 years.

>> I don’t want to live with my husband’s house

I often go out to eat and travel, sleep in the same hotel with a close friend group of two women and one year, in which the man is an old colleague and has a wife and children. I don’t give this advice because he has a family, the wife knows it will be troublesome, affecting his family’s happiness. I don’t want her to share a hotel room with that man even though there’s another female friend sleeping with me. She told me to sleep together to save money for the group and his wife didn’t know because he lied about going on a business trip for a few days.

From this incident, she was upset with me, said I did not trust her and asked for a breakup many times. I was angry with her for a few days and then finally she texted to make up first. Actually, I really want to get married and have children soon, but I am not ready to go back to my hometown to build a home together. I’m really confused, is it only our love that is so strange? Hope you consulting help. Sincere thanks.

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