The “little boy” suddenly became moody, the 35-year-old man went to the doctor and sat down when he discovered that he had a hard time talking

Concerned, panic affecting sex life and family happiness, Mr. P (35 years old, in Ba Dinh, Hanoi) went to the doctor at the Southern Learning Center, Vietnam-Germany Friendship Hospital.

Telling the doctor, this man said that he had been married for 2 years and had a normal child. Before, the couple’s sex life was smooth and there were no problems.

However, about 3 months ago, he noticed signs of poor erection, the boy kept “weak” causing difficulties in sexual intercourse. Especially in the last 2 months, he has completely reduced his sexual desire.

Assoc. Nguyen Quang, Director of the Center for Andrology, Vietnam-Germany Friendship Hospital visits patients

After examining and performing necessary tests for the patient, Assoc. Nguyen Quang, Director of the Center for Andrology, Viet Duc Friendship Hospital, said: The patient’s test results showed a decrease in male hormone (testosterol). The patient was prescribed medication and psychological counseling between the couple to improve the quality of sexual relations.

According to Dr. Nguyen Quang, the patient’s case is classified as a sexual disorder. Although this is a normal disease, in fact people still feel embarrassed and difficult to talk about.

“The Southern Learning Center has received many cases of sexual disorders coming to the clinic for various reasons and moods. Some people come despite being mentally prepared, but timidly and hesitantly dare to enter. This is a common disease. meet and we have the right to go to the official medical examination, should not hesitate”, Dr. Quang said.

There are many causes of this disease, but according to Dr. Nguyen Quang, the most common cause is endocrine disorders. Accordingly, in both men and women, there is a decline in hormone levels. For women, this process occurs more suddenly, and for men, it is 40 years or older.

“In addition to age, people with sexual dysfunction can also have other causes, especially chronic diseases such as liver, heart, lung, chronic kidney …

On the contrary, some drugs to treat these diseases themselves also cause sexual disorders such as blood pressure drugs, stomach medicine, “Dr. Nguyen Quang information.

In particular, this expert also emphasized that psychological factors also greatly affect sexual relations for both men and women. When people are under pressure about work and spirit, they cannot have good desires. If sex is forced, love is very difficult to sublimate.

Along with that, the current lifestyle is too hasty, so eating quickly, drinking quickly, sleeping in a hurry, everything is in a hurry, not to mention many factors affected by binge eating, drinking a lot of alcohol, smoking… It also affects the sexual performance of both men and women.

Through the actual examination, the male doctor found that many cases of sexual dysfunction were caused just because of the … inferiority complex about the body. Accordingly, men think that the penis is too small, women think that their body does not have sexy curves, not sexy … so they lose confidence, leading to quality effects when doing “sex”.

Therefore, to treat this disease, Dr. Nguyen Quang said, in addition to the patient’s use of drugs, psychological factors are very important. Psychology is the main barrier that causes the disease and is also the outcome of the disease.

When they can’t have sex, men/women have the mentality of wanting their partner and spouse to be satisfied, but seeing that they can’t achieve it, they have a lingering guilt mentality. If not handled well, it will make the mind heavier, thus forming a pathological vortex, making the quality of the relationship even worse.

“The treatment process cannot be one-sided, if one side of the treatment does not cooperate and does not influence the other side, no matter how good the drug is, only one side will be satisfied. And the quality of sex cannot be guaranteed. Even if the other side is not satisfied with the drug treatment, the self-esteem will be even worse because the drug is not effective. At this time, it can’t be saved. Therefore, sexual treatment is important. The husband and wife system must be from two sides”, Dr. Quang emphasized.

Dr. Quang shared that in the process of receiving patients, in many cases, doctors have consulted both husband and wife on behaviors and interactions in the husband and wife relationship, contributing to improving psychological well-being, thereby contributing to improving the quality of life. High quality treatment increases family happiness.

N. Huyen