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Only 7 skills but make a big gap between a child’s success and failure

1. Confidence

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Most parents equate self-esteem with confidence. In fact, there is little evidence that raising self-esteem increases work and academic success, or even genuine happiness.

Studies show that kids who see their grades as based on their own efforts and strengths are more successful than kids who believe they can’t control their academic performance.

Children with confidence know that they can fail but can also create solutions and self-corrections. This is the key that makes the difference between a successful person and a failure.

2. Empathy

Empathy is an essential and important ability of a leader. Every successful entrepreneur knows that in order to gain the respect and support of colleagues or employees, they need to always understand and empathize with the opinions and feelings of others.

Empathy is not a “gift”, it can be practiced in every person, in adults and especially children.

You can teach your children empathy by treating them like an adult, respecting and empathizing with their decisions and feelings. Teach your child to always put himself in the place and situation of others to understand.

This will help children realize what they have in common with people, as well as understand their reasons and actions.

Skill Empathy will help children become successful leaders and lead happy lives in the future.

3. Autonomy

The ability to control a child’s thoughts, actions, and desires is one of the most highly correlated strengths for success, and one of the surprising untapped secrets of helping children thrive.

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This was proven through the marshmallow challenge. In the late 1960s at Stanford University’s Bing Kindergarten, a number of preschoolers (aged 3-5 years) were selected to participate in a study.

The children were taken into an empty room or seated at a table with one of two choices: get one marshmallow immediately, or two if they waited until the experimenter took more candy from another room.

Marshmallow is a candy made from sugar, water, gelatine with a square shape, flexible and soft like cotton balls. Would most kids consider the first thing stupid and choose to wait for two candies?

In a real experiment, children were left alone in a room for up to 15 minutes or until they tasted the candy. The length of time the children “suffered” without trying the enticing reward in front of them varied.

The results of later research show that the longer they wait, the better their future fate is socially, emotionally and academically. Other experiments yielded similar patterns: People who demonstrated greater self-control in childhood were wealthier, healthier, and more law-abiding as adults.

4. Integrity

Integrity is a set of learned beliefs, competencies, attitudes, and skills that help children know what is right and wrong. Equally important is that parents give their children space to develop their own identity. Parents also need to acknowledge and praise their children for correct behavior so that they know you value those behaviors.

You should also use the word “because” to make your compliment more specific. Example: “You showed integrity when you kept your promise to go with your friends even though you had to cancel the party.”

5. Curiosity

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Curiosity fuels the child’s pursuit and desire to discover new and challenging facts. To help children develop curiosity, psychologist Michele Borba likes to use open-ended toys.

For example paints, yarns and popsicles to create structures. Or you can bring out paper clips and challenge your kids to see how many unusual ways they can use paper clips.

Instead of saying, “It won’t work,” try saying to your child, “Let’s see what happens!”. Instead of giving answers, ask: “What are you thinking?”, “How do you know?”, “How can you find them?”.

When your child is reading a book, watching a movie, or just walking past someone, suggest using “I wonder” questions, for example, “I wonder where she’s going.” , “I wonder why they did that?”, “I wonder what will happen next?”.

6. Persistence

Some children give up because they feel overwhelmed when faced with many problems or a pile of homework. At that time, parents help children overcome and identify mistakes. Dividing tasks into smaller chunks helps children who have trouble concentrating.

For example, you can teach your daughter to “split” the task of completing an assignment by covering all of her math problems with a sheet of paper, except for the top row. Lower the sheet of paper to the bottom row as each row of math is completed.

Older children can write each exercise on a sticky note, according to difficulty, and do one thing at a time. Parents encourage children to do the hardest work first so that they don’t have to think about it all night. Confidence and perseverance are built when children complete big tasks on their own.

7. Optimism

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Optimistic kids see temporary challenges and obstacles as surmountable, so they’re more likely to succeed. In contrast, pessimistic children see challenges as permanent, like blocks of cement that cannot be moved, so they are more likely to give up.

Teaching children to be optimistic starts with the parents themselves. Parents should tailor their typical messages to children. Evaluate yourself, do you see things more pessimistic or optimistic? Do friends and family say the same about you?

If you find your spirit is leaning to one side, remember that change begins with looking in the mirror. If you find yourself being overly pessimistic, it might be helpful to write down your reasons for becoming more optimistic. Change is hard, but it’s important that you set an example for what you want your child to learn.

According to CNBC

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