From a small monster to a high level beast
Diaper moms must have heard the phrase ‘postpartum depression’, but if you haven’t experienced it, you won’t know how scary it really is. This disease is like a terrible change in personality and psychology, making a woman not know what she is doing and why everything has become the way it is. Even many people have chosen death.
At these times, if there is no attention from the family, especially the husband, things will become worse. Recently, Mr. Nguyen Anh Toan (34 years old, currently living in Phuc Dong, Long Bien, Hanoi) shared his family’s story, how he and his wife overcame postpartum depression that made many people happy. emotion.
”It’s really only when you’ve faced depression that you understand how scary it is. The day before Sam gave birth, his wife also suffered from depression. At that time, both were very young, did not know, did not learn about the symptoms of postpartum depression like. Just think that because life has many changes, everyone has difficulties in the first period after marriage.
But no, my wife almost turned into a different person, angry for no reason, vulnerable and also easy to hurt others. The quarrels, the discord makes many times I think that the two will not be able to live together anymore. Then I took my wife to the doctor, listened to the doctor talk, advise, listen to her confide, I understand that I am her most necessary psychological fulcrum at this time, an indispensable fulcrum.
Toan and his wife went through difficult times together.
Life has also gradually changed since then, I know how to listen more, accompany my wife more in both work and life. Sometimes you have to put your ego down, have to be known as a guy who is afraid of his wife, as long as his mentality is more stable.
His depression was so scary, it changed his wife from Kitty to a lion, that’s why I understood the phrase “a combination of angels and demons” that his wife wrote on Facebook, it was not a coincidence. Maybe you don’t understand the feeling of being thrown at you with a whole durian, the feeling of being yelled at and scolded, quietly picking up your backpack and leaving and then holding it back a few days later? Many nights she hugged me and cried because she herself could not understand why such actions and actions were taken at that time.
I love my wife 1, I love my children even more, I don’t want my life to reappear in my children if my parents separate. But sometimes I am also really tired, I also want to give up, but the children and the love of husband and wife urge me to always try, to find a way to treat my wife more positively.
So let’s work together, go together and both change. I work hard to write posts on Facebook is also to create an environment for my wife and people to confide, I take pains to take pictures so that my wife no longer has to ask other friends to take pictures for me, then the whole family goes out more. the more, working together also more than before.
I also don’t know when my wife will be free of depression, maybe a few years, or maybe she will have to live with it for the rest of her life. But I still hope that we will always be together, “every difficulty can be overcome, every enemy will win” girlfriend, right?Mr. Toan confided.
Mr. Toan with his wife and children.
Under the comment section, many people shared and admired Mr. Toan’s efforts, especially his love for his wife. How patiently, enduring, patient and loving his wife must be, a man does such things.
”I did not see those difficult days of my sister-in-law, but just listening to it I saw how hard they were trying to be like this today. Love the whole family”, ”You are a wonderful husband. Understand your wife and love your children. Wish you and your husband forever happy”, ”Through your sharing, I see that your husband is really wonderful. Happy. because you have always been together, for each other’,… words of encouragement sent to Mr. Toan and his wife.
Sharing more about his story, Mr. Toan confided that the family is now calm again, sometimes his wife still suffers from depression but it is not as severe as before.
”There’s a lot of things about his wife’s depression, that’s when she gets angry and irritable for no reason. I simply do something wrong and I can get yelled at. The incident was clearly absurd in the eyes of ordinary people, but she could still get angry. For example, she told me to go wash the dishes, but as soon as I finished eating, I wanted to rest for a while and then work. Then she went back, saw that the house was a bit messy, so she said it all the time, even brought up many old stories to talk about, and then got angry. In general, let it all out, or make an excuse to cause trouble. At times like that, if you don’t hold back, it’s a big fight.
My wife was previously a smart, agile person, also known as a high-income job in a foreign business. He is also very skillful and cooks very well. Since postpartum depression, the habits of taking care of the house and family are no longer there, instead there are scenes of reproof, anger, crying for no reason…
I noticed that at such times, her feelings are greatly suppressed and must be released, but the object of her release can only be her husband. When she is depressed, but she can’t stand it anymore, she feels like she just needs to do something that hurts her eyes and she’ll be told. From the smallest things in life to big decisions in the family.
But fortunately everything is fine now, the wife also experiences depression, two grown children and love each other. It is an immeasurable happiness. After 3 years of intensive treatment, his wife’s health and psychology have gradually stabilized. Only occasional mild headaches and mild discomfort for a few days. Because I understand, as soon as I see a signal, I will find a way to indulge my wife’s feelings to help relieve stress immediately.the father of two confided.
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