Suffering in an 8-year relationship with a married man | Women

I have a close friend, she was also pretty when she was young and was pursued by many boyfriends. Through two failed love affairs, one with a college classmate, one after graduating from school to work, somehow she didn’t choose, and went with a married man.

This man is many years older than my friend, he is the mature and successful type, but in appearance is quite different from my friend. If I meet you outside and don’t know your friend’s “boyfriend”, I’ll call him uncle.

From the very beginning I have advised you a lot, that you should not get involved with married men. She also agreed with me that she would cut off, that I was right, but I never saw them cut off.

My friend, on the other hand, went deeper and deeper. There is a period when she is happy, praising this man sweetly, psychologically, loving her wholeheartedly, financially stable, not letting her lack anything she wants…

I tell you, “the only thing you want but he’ll never give you, is a family“. You didn’t believe me, you said “he is leaving his wife to come to me, they are not happy”.

But that “soon” finally lasted for 8 years, my friend gave birth to that man 2 children but nothing changed about his status. I don’t mean to expect it to happen, I just mean, she should have seen it never happen.

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Seeing you live sad and miserable life alone, raising two children for that man alone, worrying when your child is sick, you go to the emergency room, while he still has his family, love it. When I went to my friend’s place, his wife didn’t know his children, he didn’t know about this other life of his, if he didn’t like it, my friend wouldn’t be able to call all day, I was both angry and sorry for you.

But I cannot sympathize with my friend. Unfortunately, every time you are sad, you find me to confide in. Most recently you said you and the man were having a big argument, because you gave him an ultimatum that he chooses to go, you and the two children or family you have. But your man doesn’t want any change, he wants life as it is now, has both, and my friend is helpless, she doesn’t know what to do.

Like I said, I don’t approve of what you’re doing, I see she made a terrible mistake at the beginning of this relationship, so all I can say is “leave it.” that man, he’s not nice, you’re not good either, how long are you going to tie yourself to live like this.”

Every time I say that, you get mad at me, say I don’t understand, that man is very good, he doesn’t love his wife, is not happy but can’t leave it.

I’m an outspoken person who can’t help but criticize you every time she talks about the trouble she brings into her life. But she’s my best friend, so I can’t leave you because of disagreements, especially when she’s in a bad state, not happy.

My friend’s children are lovely, their father fully supports them financially and he still visits them when he can. But I don’t want to see my friend live like this, I know she never had a real family when she chose this path. What should I do to help her wake up? I used to think to leave her alone, everyone lives their own lives, but every time you meet a problem, you will find me in pain, making my heart restless.