Wife would rather give up this marriage than spend 150 million dong

Once upon a time, when I met each other, I asked my wife to come back to live with her parents-in-law so that she and I could take care of them in the right way.

At that time, my wife asked me to promise three things: First, where the wife goes, what to do, to visit her biological parents just need to inform, without asking for permission and with my parents’ permission. Second, the wife asks everyone in the house to do housework, not force her to serve. Third, everything big and small in the wife’s house has the right to have an opinion. My parents and I did not accept those things, so my wife announced that she would not return to be a bride for a day. So my family warned me about this. However, I was dazzled by her beauty and independent personality and still rushed in.

After getting married, I always feel there is a separation between the small family and the big family. She thinks that because my parents have no merit to raise her or help her, the responsibility of filial piety is entirely mine, she is only responsible for being filial to her biological parents. When my mother was in the hospital, the sisters-in-law all took care of and cleaned her, stayed overnight to look after her, and she just stopped by to ask and give some food. Because of this, I was criticized by my family for not knowing how to teach my wife, so that my wife would be unfilial to my mother. Her own house for rent, my family in the countryside wanted to stay for a few weeks, she also did not agree, people said that my husband and I had money but unintentionally, did not want to help anyone.

>> I intend to divorce my selfish wife

Most recently, when my brother built a house, he needed to borrow some money. The brothers and sisters in the family all put in a little, although they said it was a loan, everyone defaulted to giving it to him, I also needed to contribute 150 million dong. I didn’t have enough money, condescendingly told my wife, she shook her head and said she was not responsible for helping her brother, if needed, I could borrow her. This is the last straw, I shouted at my wife, she did not fit, insisted on arguing. I saw messages from her and her best friend from a few years ago, she complained that my family had an old-fashioned lifestyle and liked to bully daughter-in-law, when in fact she had never spent a dime for her husband’s family.

I left my parents’ house to wait for the divorce proceedings. She said she was ready to raise her child alone, without my support. Even if I agree with her decision, I do not have the right to visit the child, as if the mother and daughter have cut off their relationship with the paternal house. I still love my children so I do not agree with this. So far, everything in our house has been split in half, including our savings, so there’s no arguing about assets. Many times I was shocked because I found myself in the eyes of my wife so cheap. I am willing to pay a few tens of millions of dong to buy branded goods, take my parents on a trip, but can throw this marriage away for 150 million dong.

I regret ignoring my family’s advice to marry a selfish woman. My advice to men who are about to get married: If that girl does not agree to live with her husband’s family, no matter how good or beautiful, stop. A woman who does not want to integrate into a large family will not be able to bring happiness to your life.

Quang

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