Parents must be the first ‘shield, antidote’ to prevent their child’s suicide

The fact that students choose to give up their lives by committing suicide raises many questions. One of them is whether the behavior of parents towards their children is proper and reasonable?

Child psychologists say that many parents, although very loving their children, have placed too much love and unreasonable expectations, indirectly causing their children to have psychological problems.

Even some parents are not sensitive enough, the necessary attention to have reasonable behavior when their children encounter problems that they cannot overcome alone.

Child psychologist Le Khanh, Department of Family and Child Psychology Counseling in Ho Chi Minh City, said that the situation of children and students committing suicide is the child’s response to the problems that children are facing. This reaction has many causes.

One of the reasons for this is that children experience too much pressure from their parents. Psychologist Le Khanh said: “This issue has been discussed and analyzed a lot by society. However, to change it is very difficult because in reality, every parent wants their child to become “this man, that woman” in the future.

This expectation causes parents to intentionally or unintentionally put pressure on their children. The more parents expect, the more pressure their children are put under. When the pressure reaches the threshold, they will fall into psychological problems that lead to negative thoughts, behaviors and reactions.

In this case, when parents notice that their children have warning signs and symptoms, they need to stop and not put more pressure on their children. In this way, the child’s problem will be solved.

However, reality shows that children in general and students in particular are not only under pressure from parents. That’s when they are bullied by their friends, do poorly in school, accidentally associate with the bad guys of society and are cheated and oppressed but don’t dare to confess…

These causes also cause the child to experience pressure in life, causing them to have negative reactions. At this time, parents must be the first “shield, antidote” for children’s problems and negative thoughts by caring, having reasonable and timely behavior.

Expert Le Khanh shared: “It is very difficult to answer the question of what is a child with bad signs. However, if parents really care about their children, they will find that their children have signs and behaviors that are not normal.”

First, they changed their daily routine, eating, resting on time, staying up late, getting up late.

Next, the children lived more closed lives, were absent-minded, or irritable, reacting strongly to their parents when asked by their parents and relatives in a normal way…

“When detecting these signs, parents must increase their attention and observe their children to find out the cause. Parents should talk and create a comfortable environment for them to express their problems.”

“If in the case it’s too late, the children show signs of depression, negative thoughts … parents need to consider seeking the support of psychotherapists,” Le Khanh said.

Ha Nguyen