Grandmother “toxic” – Infonet

Her mother gave birth to only Dao, so she was pampered like an egg since childhood. His father died early, so when Dao got married, his mother took the initiative to ask her son-in-law to live with her. Of course, it didn’t take much effort for her mother to convince Hoang-Dao’s husband-because his family had many children and a small house, while Dao’s mother and daughter lived in a four-story house with an area of ​​more than 60 square meters per floor.

The reputation is in the groom, but the couple is comfortable as if they are alone because Dao’s mother is youthful, she “hangs around” all day, sometimes traveling for a whole week to a month before returning. When she was at home, she also had coffee in the morning and gathered at noon. Dao and his wife support that free lifestyle of their mother because of the same view that “she can do whatever she wants, as long as she’s happy”.

The story of living with his mother-in-law has been peaceful for more than two years. When Dao’s daughter was born, conflicts began to arise. Mother always declared: “My mother is old and can’t take care of me, the couple arranges it by themselves!”. Dao also grinned jokingly: “Mother just enjoy life like a dream, when you like, you can hold me for a while!”…

However, when hiring a maid, Dao’s mother “scrutinizes” little by little. The maid held the grandchild in her arms, gently rocking it gently, then Dao’s mother snapped: “If you shake my baby so dizzy, he won’t fall asleep quickly?”, “Your clothes, you have to wash your hands and wash them. the machine that makes her twist her body!”…

If the mother is the woman of the family, Dao does not say anything. So far, my mother has only been used to the life of flying and jumping, what she said to the maid is also what she heard others say, without any science.

Within a few months, Dao had to replace three maids, before leaving everyone said: “The aunt and uncle are very nice, but I can’t stand her mother’s “mercursive” temperament, so the aunt and uncle sympathize and find someone Just go!”. Dao begged her mother that these days, finding someone who is competent and loves children is not easy, as long as mom just ignores them, doesn’t pay attention to what they do.

Only that, Dao’s mother made up for it and wanted to take care of her grandson, but she was also prevented: “If you see pain in the eyes, you have to say, why do you force me to pretend to be deaf and mute in my house?”…

If heaven doesn’t accept the earth, the earth has to accept it. Any maid who comes to the house, Dao also has to do ideological work so that they can “ignore and do it”… By the time their daughter learned to speak, Dao and his wife both felt stressed with their mother. everyday.

Every morning, the mother takes the baby to breakfast. I only ate a few pieces, I shook my head and Grandma stopped, not coaxing me to eat more. After breakfast, she took me to coffee with a group of friends. When old friends meet, they talk indiscriminately and do not keep their intentions. Going with her in the morning, in the evening, she met her parents, she always said dirty words that made Dao and his wife stunned when they heard it.

There was even a time when she was watching TV, she turned to say: “I’m stupid, I don’t know anything” and then laughed; Other times, they innocently cursed their mother… Dao and his wife tried to explain so that their children wouldn’t say bad things, but they didn’t win. Every time she heard her child curse, her husband and wife looked at each other and sighed because they knew the reason but didn’t know how to tell their mother so she wouldn’t get angry.

And yet, Dao and his wife always want to be strict with their children, but her mother is the opposite, she wants the child to develop naturally, so she unconditionally indulges. Whatever I want, she immediately responds. Until bedtime, but I still want to “hug” Ipad, grandma gave me … satisfied. While eating porridge, but I want to eat snacks, Grandma also immediately…

Little things gradually accumulated, causing Dao and his wife no one to think about how they would have to tell their mother to expect her to change in a positive direction. The little girl is only two years old, like a blank sheet of paper, if she lets her grandmother “bend” her in a “toxic” way for so long, it will be very hard for the Dao and her husband to grow up in the process of raising their children.

“If mom doesn’t change, maybe we have to consider moving out!”- Dao said sadly to her husband, which she did not want to do at this time because her mother would definitely feel hurt. so much love to hear.

According to phuuvietnam.vn