My mother-in-law is too close to my husband

I am 27 years old, my husband is 35 years old. Although I have to go to work, I never forget to take care of my small family. I am a pretty responsible and responsible woman. My father-in-law died early, my husband lived with his mother since childhood. I understand and sympathize with the situation of my mother-in-law, so I always love her like a biological mother, care, worry and confide in her. One day, I realized what hurt me.

Two months ago, my mother-in-law went to the street to play with us, then the whole family got Covid. I take care of the housework, so taking care of everyone is the main thing, taking care of every glass. After Covid, my mother-in-law stayed with us for a while. Then I realized that my mother-in-law was very attached to my husband, difficult to take a step away. My husband went to work and she wanted to go with me. She often hugs my husband, then leans on her shoulder, pats his head, sometimes he also shows his affection for his mother. I consider myself a filial son, so there’s nothing wrong with my mother-in-law living with me, so I want to follow her son.

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I understand that she has lived with her mother since she was a child, so it is normal to have many feelings. If a mother shows her feelings once or twice because she doesn’t see her children for a long time, it’s okay, but these actions she shows every day. I’m a patient person, so I don’t show any discomfort or displeasure. At such times I just pretend to look away or go to my room to cry. I’m three weeks pregnant after having Covid, because of this, I’m not in a good mood. I was depressed, sad, and sometimes even foolish.

I told my husband about my feelings, he said that showing affection like that is normal between mother and son. I said such actions are only for children under 18 years old, over here you have a wife and are about to have children. I said if my husband is not more considerate and sensitive, I will move back to my parents’ house. My parents’ house is close to my husband’s house, I don’t tell my grandparents about this. My husband seems to be a bit more restrictive, but if this situation continues, I will not be able to live together. Husband and wife quarrel, quarrel, I intend to separate. I am very confused, what should I do?

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